Posted on April 27, 2011 by Levya Braman
Are you tired or bored with your life as it currently is? Do you look at your day-to-day experiences and wonder how your life got to be this way? Where did your passion go? How did you end up here?
Good news – It’s not too late to change your life! All it takes is, 1- the ‘want to’ ,followed by, 2- actions that will get you there. Sounds easy enough, right?
If you let yourself, you can imagine the life you want. However, often times our inner critic shouts all kinds of reasons why that life isn’t possible. You begin to believe that voice. How many times have you talked yourself out of going for your dream?
That inner critic is coming from a place of fear. You start thinking that instead of being happier, you’ll somehow end up hurting yourself or losing something of value if you get what you want. The fear is also tied to feelings of not being good enough and/or not deserving happiness.
The best way to get through your fear is to acknowledge it, talk it out, put all your fears on the table. Then you’ll be able to see if your mind has distorted things; you can also see your limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are statements we believe are true, when in reality, they’re not. Not challenging your limiting beliefs can be costly; it could cost you a less-than life (less than happy, less than meaningful, and less than exciting).
Let’s move on to the 2nd part of our equation – taking actions that align with your ‘want to’. So many people try taking actions that will get them their goal but they fail to take enough action. Instead of getting out of their ruts, they just fall back into them.
I’ve found that consistent action is key here. You must continue your actions even when it’s not comfortable or convenient, even when you’re tired, even when you don’t feel like it.
You must create and establish new patterns and routines. One way to do this is to set up accountability for yourself; have someone who will help you if/when your actions don’t line up with your words.
A coach can be that accountability person you need to be successful. Friends and family are often too close or they have a personal stake in the outcome, making it difficult for them to be objective. A coach will also tell you the truth, well-meaning friends might not. Additionally, a coach will be there to encourage you to stay true to yourself, reminding you that ruts don’t bring happiness and fulfillment.
Don’t settle for a life that bores you! Make the choice today to get out of your ruts and start living life on your own terms.
If you’d like some help getting out of your ruts, I encourage you to contact me.