{"id":2019,"date":"2011-04-13T11:47:31","date_gmt":"2011-04-13T18:47:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.noomii.com\/?p=2019"},"modified":"2023-01-13T09:13:01","modified_gmt":"2023-01-13T17:13:01","slug":"words-matter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=2019","title":{"rendered":"Words Matter!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Watch your actions, for they become habits.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Watch your habits, for they become character.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.<\/strong><!–mep-nl–><p>One of my clients $1000 loan today no credit check<\/a> joked last week that she needed a retraining device, something like that electric collar that zaps dogs when they bark.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 She was noticing how challenging it is for her to stop using language that disempowers her; she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s become so comfortable with it that she hardly notices what she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s doing. She finds herself using words that put her in the role of victim, making self-depreciating remarks, and verbally closing the door on herself. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0She wonders why she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s having such a hard time keeping her momentum in terms of the changes she wants to implement in her life.<\/p><!–mep-nl–><p>This is true of so many of us.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Our language has incredible power to transform our lives, and yet many of us use it to keep ourselves small and stagnant, meek and resigned.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 When we do this, we stay in the role of victim; a comfort zone from the past that doesn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t support growth and development.<\/p><!–mep-nl–><p>Ghandi\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s words are simple reminders of the way that we change ourselves from the inside out.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Our brain believes what we say: it has to, as our words originate in the brain.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 We have the power to re-choose how we want to be today and how we will be tomorrow.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 So when we caretake our thoughts and feelings, and then we work outwards from there, we create what we want.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Sounds easy, right?\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 It takes practice, but revising common language patterns goes a long way toward shaping the life you want.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Here are some reminders, in case you find yourself slipping into old habits:<\/p><!–mep-nl–><h3>1.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Reclaim the pronoun you own<\/h3><!–mep-nl–><p>The most basic way to use empowering language is to literally speak for yourself.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Rather than using\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cyou\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>, as in \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cYou learn alot about yourself when travelling\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d, use\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>: \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI learn alot about myself when travelling\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Take responsibility for your own experience, and share from that place of knowledge.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Others will be much more engaged, and you honor yourself.<\/p><!–mep-nl–><h3>2.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Drop the \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cshould\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/h3><!–mep-nl–><p>What a useless word!\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 A friend of mine loves to say \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cDon\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t should all over yourself\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d; it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s crude, but pretty close to how I feel about it too.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Shoulds are ideas that come from someplace other than ourselves, and help us to engage in that unhelpful pattern of comparing ourselves to others.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Rather than\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI should\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>, spend a moment in your heart and ponder why you might want to do whatever it is you assume you should do.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Replace\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cshould\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> with\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cchoose to\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>,\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cwant to\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> or\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cit\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s important to me to\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 You go immediately from victim (I have no choice) to empowered (I choose to do this)!<\/p><!–mep-nl–><h3>3.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Exercise the power of choice<\/h3><!–mep-nl–><p>Language can be a great tool for pointing out the difference an attitude makes.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 At the root of my coaching training is the simple notion that\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong><em>We Are Always At Choice<\/em><\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u009d we can choose to feel good or feel bad, to stay stuck or move on.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Similarly, shifting words can radically alter your mindset and free you up to go big:<\/p><!–mep-nl–><ul><!–mep-nl–><li><strong>I need to, I have to, I can\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t , I must<\/strong>:\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>shift instead to \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u0153&gt;<\/strong> <strong>I choose to, I want to, I\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2m not willing to, I am responsible for, I want to learn, It\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s an opportunity for me<\/strong><\/li><!–mep-nl–><\/ul><!–mep-nl–><ul><!–mep-nl–><li>Also, changing thoughts and language from\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cYou make me\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u00a6\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> to\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI feel frustrated\/angry\/sad when\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u00a6\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> takes you right out of the victim mentality and back in charge of your life.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 That\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s where you belong!<\/li><!–mep-nl–><\/ul><!–mep-nl–><h3>4.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 No more diminishing, please<\/h3><!–mep-nl–><p>There are a few small words that have incredible power and you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ll want to use them wisely, if at all.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 For example, if you use\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cbut\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> after describing something wonderful, you essentially negate all that you evoked before the word\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cbut\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Try\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cand\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d <\/strong>instead.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 If you use\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cjust\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>, like\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2m just a student\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>, you diminish the statement\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s worth.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Leave out the\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cjust\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>! \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Including\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2d like to say\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong>, or\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<strong>\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cMaybe\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/strong> before stating your opinion diminishes ownership and credibility.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Make clear statements of fact or belief with confidence and enthusiasm, and watch what happens both within you and within the conversation.<\/p><!–mep-nl–><p>Which of these language habits do you recognize in your own inner and outer dialogue?\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 What does it feel like to replace the disempowering words and thoughts with those that strengthen and support you?\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Will you retrain your brain, and use your powerful words to help you create the change you want? <div style=”overflow: hidden; height: 1px;”><a href=”https:\/\/edpillgrece.gr”>https:\/\/edpillgrece.gr<\/a><\/div><\/p><!–mep-nl–>

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