{"id":2088,"date":"2011-05-26T13:27:24","date_gmt":"2011-05-26T20:27:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.noomii.com\/?p=2088"},"modified":"2011-05-26T13:27:24","modified_gmt":"2011-05-26T20:27:24","slug":"what-does-it-mean-to-love-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=2088","title":{"rendered":"What does it mean to love yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8216;What does it mean to love yourself?&#8217; is a question I&#8217;ve been\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0asked numerous times;\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 somehow our society has confused and convoluted\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0the answer to a very basic question.<\/p>\n<p>I first need to explain what loving yourself means, then why it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s important to living a happy life.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What does it mean to love yourself ?<\/strong> It means&#8230;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>you treat yourself kindly and with respect. This includes positive and encouraging self-talk (how you talk to yourself in your mind). Calling\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 yourself names or demeaning your character are not demonstrations of love.<\/li>\n<li>you are honest with yourself; you have personal awareness about your strengths and weaker areas<\/li>\n<li>you live authentically, not pretending, being real about who you are and what you like<\/li>\n<li>you\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0keep your word to yourself and do what you say you will do (keeping commitments and promises), you follow through<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Loving yourself is not:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>being narcisitic \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u0153 bragging, exaggerating, using others, or being arrogant<\/li>\n<li>being totally preoccupied with your own wants and needs while being unaware of others&#8217; around you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Why is loving yourself important?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s important because it means you&#8217;re using your life energy positively and your life will flow. If you struggle against yourself, you will experience inner turmoil, which is exhausting. You&#8217;ll often\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0feel fatigued and unexcited about your life. You could be using that same amount of energy to bring people and activities into your life that bring you joy and happiness.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The consequences of not loving yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When you fail to love yourself it impacts how you live your life. You will most likely &#8230;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>be overly critical of yourself, causing you to feel\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0like you&#8217;re not good enough<\/li>\n<li>be unhappy but unable to pinpoint why<\/li>\n<li>be unable to trust your instincts<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>You might think that this is something you can hide, that others won&#8217;t find out,\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 or that it won&#8217;t hurt anyone but you. Wrong. Not loving yourself will also impact others because if you don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t like and respect yourself you will:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>be more apt to judge and be overly critical of others too<\/li>\n<li>have a tendency to go overboard trying to get others to like you<\/li>\n<li>have a difficult time maintaining relationships with others<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Are you up to\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0a challenge?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>As your coach, I&#8217;d like to leave you with some homework or a challenge. This month I want you to notice how you treat yourself (both your in\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0thoughts and actions). Are you cutting yourself down or building yourself up? Are you treating yourself with kindness and respect?<\/p>\n<p>If you want your life to be less stressful, begin with ridding yourself of inner turmoil. Stop the inner conflict and allow yourself to feel loved.<\/p>\n<p>If this is an area that&#8217;s difficult for you, I can help you learn to love yourself; I hope you will contact me.<\/p>\n<div class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Posts\"><H3>Related Posts<\/H3><ul class=\"entry-meta\"><li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"The Ultimate Guide to Family Coaches for Beginners (2025)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=6409\" rel=\"bookmark\">The Ultimate Guide to Family Coaches for Beginners (2025)<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"Coaching Calgary Guide: Your 2025 Resource for Success\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=6444\" rel=\"bookmark\">Coaching Calgary Guide: Your 2025 Resource for Success<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"The Ultimate Guide to Coaching Traineeship for Beginners (2025)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=6442\" rel=\"bookmark\">The Ultimate Guide to Coaching Traineeship for Beginners (2025)<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"Boston Coaching Guide 2025: Your Path to Success\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=6439\" rel=\"bookmark\">Boston Coaching Guide 2025: Your Path to Success<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"Top 10 Best Good Life Coaches to Transform Your 2025\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=6437\" rel=\"bookmark\">Top 10 Best Good Life Coaches to Transform Your 2025<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Loving yourself is an important practice that many are either unaware of, or misunderstand. If you want to be a loving person with others, you must first be able to demonstrate love to yourself. Levya explains what loving yourself is, what it isn&#8217;t, why it&#8217;s important, and the consequences that will be yours if you don&#8217;t learn to love yourself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":47,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[85,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2088","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-life-coaching","category-miscellaneous"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2088","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/47"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2088"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2088\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2432,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2088\/revisions\/2432"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2088"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2088"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2088"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}