{"id":5378,"date":"2013-11-14T07:16:07","date_gmt":"2013-11-14T15:16:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5378"},"modified":"2013-11-14T13:35:03","modified_gmt":"2013-11-14T21:35:03","slug":"dating-advice-for-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5378","title":{"rendered":"Dating Advice for Men from TV\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s Barney Stinson"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"dating

Photo credit: Celebremix<\/a><\/p><\/div>\n

It\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s easy to assume that guys watch How I Met Your Mother<\/a> for the hilarious theories of the show\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s well-dressed womanizer, Barney Stinson<\/a>, and ladies love the show for the humorous and relatable relationship problems with the main characters. <\/p>\n

Although the \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cBro Code\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d and self-worship attitude of Barney Stinson has gained quite the cult following, there are lots of examples of things you should not<\/em> do in the dating world that he suggests. <\/p>\n

[Related reading: Pre-Marriage Relationship Advice for Men by Steve Horsmon<\/a>]<\/p>\n

Here are some memorable Barney Stinson pieces of dating advice for men that you shouldn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t necessarily follow (unless you want to get slapped).<\/p>\n

Dating advice for men: 6 Dos and don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ts from a womanizer<\/h2>\n

1. Pick up chicks by insulting them<\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cRemember my three beginner\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s tips for picking up chicks: Address her by name, isolate her from her friends, subtly put her down.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Barney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good advice:<\/strong> Be polite and have strong confidence. \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cWomen want a man with steel balls. The desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s not going to run from a fight, a man who is confident in his ability to provide and protect.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – R. Don Steele<\/a>, author of Body Language Secrets: A guide during Courtship and Dating<\/em>. <\/p>\n

2. Never date a girl more than once<\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThere are only two reasons to date a girl you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ve already dated: breast implants.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Barney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good Advice:<\/strong> Before getting back together, make a list of every conflict and compare notes. \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cDiscuss each item and what you can do to fix it. Talk about where you stand on money, jobs, sex, parenting, expectations, religion, in-laws, and all the issues that you should\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ve discussed the first time around.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Dr. Phil McGraw<\/a>, mental health professional of the Dr. Phil<\/em> show. <\/p>\n

3. Pretend she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s interesting <\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThe best way to feign interest in what a chick is saying is to silently nod your head to \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00cb\u0153My Sharona.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u009dBarney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good advice:<\/strong> Use good communication skills, \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cGood communication involves: skillful listening (empathy), effective self-expression (assertiveness), and caring (respect).\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Dr. David Burns<\/a>, author of Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work<\/em>.<\/p>\n

4. Remember \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u009d you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re probably not cheating<\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201c1. It\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s not cheating if you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re not the one who\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s married. 2. It\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s not cheating if her name has two adjacent vowels. 3. And it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s not cheating if she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s from a different area code.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Barney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good advice:<\/strong> Accept responsibility. \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cYou\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ll never get past cheating until you start being drop-dead honest\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u00a6by not being honest with yourself and your partner, you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re doing nothing but perpetuating the deception.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Dr. Phil McGraw<\/a><\/p>\n

5. Always be the opposite of the ideal boyfriend <\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThe ideal boyfriend is someone who is proficient in listening, communication, and compromise. Be proficient in none of these things.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Barney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good advice:<\/strong> Be an ideal boyfriend. Act as a team with your partner. \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cCouples that say \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00cb\u0153we\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2 are better at resolving disagreements than couples that emphasize their separateness.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Researchers from The University of California, Berkeley<\/a>. <\/p>\n

6. Treat women like Gremlins<\/h3>\n

Bad advice:<\/strong> \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThe rules for girls are the same as Gremlins. Rule number one: Never get them wet. In other words, don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t let her take a shower in your place. Rule number two: Keep them away from sunlight\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u009di.e., don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t ever see them during the day. And rule number three: Never feed them after midnight. Meaning she doesn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t sleep over, and you don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t have breakfast with her, ever.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Barney Stinson<\/p>\n

Good advice:<\/strong> Remind her of your feelings. \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cYou might be surprised at how your entire relationship can be transformed by the addition of a few compliments, words of encouragement, and reminders of how loved they are.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d – Dr. Wendy Walsh<\/a>, relationship expert from CNN, Good Morning America, The View, and more. <\/p>\n

While this list from Barney Stinson is perfect if you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re creating a TV sitcom (or planning on offending people), it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s not great dating advice if you want a successful long-term relationship. Barney eventually realized his womanizing ways and changed to be with his wife Robin, a drastic move for such a strong character. But love happens to those not even expecting it. <\/p>\n

Stick to the dating advice from the experts or other sensible characters of How I Met Your Mother<\/em>, like Marshall or Ted, if you actually want a shot at a good relationship. <\/p>\n

Related Posts<\/H3>