{"id":5800,"date":"2014-03-18T21:14:29","date_gmt":"2014-03-19T04:14:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5800"},"modified":"2014-03-18T21:14:29","modified_gmt":"2014-03-19T04:14:29","slug":"get-quarter-life-crisis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5800","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Past Your Quarter Life Crisis"},"content":{"rendered":"
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College graduation commencement speeches still ringing in your ears, the perfect career, perfect spouse, perfect family, perfect friends and perfect home \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u0153 yes, the perfect life, manifested in your mind as you accepted your diploma.<\/p>

That was then. Life in your early 20\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s has quickly transitioned into a dilemma. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0You use your small check from working a high-stress, low-pay and sometimes thankless job to cover rent, food, clothes and lack of parental financial help makes you feel isolated. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Friendships are now debatable and the future you once believed in seems confusing and not achievable anymore. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Take a breath.<\/em> It\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s time to hear what those experts at your college graduation should have said to you: get real, welcome failure, embrace crisis and take your time.<\/p>

Instead of cowering every time there is a bump in the road, these tools help you navigate through and beyond this first chapter of your life and get you to where you most want to go. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0As you well know, the only thing more important than who you are today is who you are intent on becoming. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

1. Get Real<\/h2>

Pretending to be something you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re not may seem like the easiest way to get what you want. But basing who you are on what other people think you should be dismisses all of the things you have already come to be. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

It’s not easy, but you have to\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0believe that you are enough<\/a>. When you do, walking into both personal or professional experiences, you won’t overcompensate to prove your worth. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0You, even in your quarter life crisis, \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0arrived where you are because of all the work that you have done. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Accept what you can and cannot do \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u20ac\u0153 and to be clear: what you cannot do does not equate worthlessness.<\/p>

2. Welcome Failure<\/h2>

Do better, tap into your passion, and get a clearer sense of self by\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0welcoming failure<\/a>. Challenge yourself to see failure as an aspiration, and you’ll get closer to where you are actually meant to be. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Start pursuing opportunities considering: \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cWhat do I have to gain?\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d instead of, \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cWhat do I have to lose?\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Take a step back and be encouraged by your own courage.<\/p>

While failure might yield a longer journey to success, you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ll gain life-long lessons every step of the way that will help you stay on target with who you are and what you are meant to do.<\/p>

3. Embrace Crisis<\/h2>

There are moments when your life seems to have fallen apart. Perhaps this is on the dramatic side, but don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t play your experiences down. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0You will feel loss, loneliness, confusion and want to shout \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cWhy me?!\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/p>

In crisis, you can decide to do one of two things:<\/p>

1. Live in a lie and deny that the crisis exists\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0
2. Show the crisis who you really are and move forward \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Spiritual teacher and author Gary Zukav<\/a> says, \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cIf you do not bring forth the truth of your heart, how can you give the gifts that you were born to give? Potential that cannot break through encrusted fear becomes frustration, resentment, hopelessness, anger and rage. Self-hatred is self-destruction.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

A crisis does not end you, it leads you to a breakthrough where a deeper meaning begins.<\/p>

4. Take Your Time<\/h2>

Dwelling in the process is the most important key to navigating through your 20’s.<\/p>

First Lady,\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Michelle Obama<\/a> said, \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThe only thing that happens in an instant is destruction. Build something\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u00a6earthquake, it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s gone. But everything else requires time: raising children, building a family, having a career. All of it takes time.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Make the decision to slow down and realize, in itself, slowness is not a reason to stop or to be impatient. Taking your time<\/a> gives you the energy and focus to keep moving toward the highest expression of your life, in your own time, and at your own pace.<\/p>

Listen, no one will tell you being in your 20\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s is going to be easy and it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s up to you to roll with the punches while celebrating the times you get back up, dust yourself off and keep moving forward. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

Get real, welcome failure, embrace crisis and take your time and you will start living real 20-something solutions.<\/p>

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