{"id":5865,"date":"2014-04-30T15:01:30","date_gmt":"2014-04-30T22:01:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5865"},"modified":"2014-04-30T15:01:30","modified_gmt":"2014-04-30T22:01:30","slug":"9-lies-friends-tell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=5865","title":{"rendered":"9 Lies That Friends Tell"},"content":{"rendered":"
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image by ALEX CHECKALAYIL<\/a> adapted for use under creative commons<\/p><\/div>

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend and wondered to yourself \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI wonder how much of what she told me was really true?\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Well here\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s a list of the nine lies that friends like to tell.<\/p>

What are those, you ask?<\/em> We’ve been sworn by secrecy by the CIA, NSA, Mi6, and the Public Library not to reveal them, but for you, we will. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0You just can\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t leak this to my KGB contact.<\/p>

9 Lies that Friends Tell<\/h2>

1. Number of sexual partners<\/h3>

Let\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s face it; this is the easiest area where to lie. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0If your friend is a guy, the real number is going to be less than what he tells you. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0If it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s a gal, it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s going to be more than what she is telling you.
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2. Your choice of clothes<\/h3>

Your friend is may notice that your purple shirt do not go with those plaid pants, but instead of warning you about your impending disaster, they\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ll be more likely when asked to say, \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThat looks great.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d
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3. What their job really entails<\/h3>

Your friend tells you that she just got a job as the Office Manager for a prestigious downtown law firm. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0In reality it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s more than likely she is filing memos and faxing documents for a single practice attorney who\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s just getting started.<\/p>

4. What their significant other really does\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/h3>

Similar to #3, the status of one\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s spouse or boyfriend\/girlfriend has a tangential reference to their own self-worth. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0Who wants to tell a friend that your wife works as a night janitor in a university building when you can say that she is “Assisting with a team of researchers at a University to come up with a cure for cancer.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d
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5. Why they couldn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t hang out with you<\/h3>

\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cSorry I couldn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t make it last night, I had family commitments\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d is usually more like \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cMy wife really would prefer that I don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t spend time with you because she\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s afraid I\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2ll turn out just like you.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/p>

6. How much money they really make<\/h3>

I don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t care how good of friends they are, I doubt they are going to be sharing their pay stub with you. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0
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7. Who they really know<\/h3>

Some friends like to tell their friends all the important people they know. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0The truth be told, many times their relationship with these important people go as far as having their picture taken with them.<\/p>

8. Their idyllic childhood<\/h3>

When they start telling you what a wonderful childhood they had with the perfect mother and father, wonderful siblings, and a comfortable home, it\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s time to start putting the truth radar up.
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9. What they think of your\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0significant other<\/h3>

Yes your friend may be married to slob who hangs around in a wife beater t-shirt and hasn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t bathed in a week, but you\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2re more likely to tell your friend \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cHe seems nice\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d instead of the truth which is \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cWhat did you see in that doofus?\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d
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The real truth is that your friends have a lot at stake and a lot of reasons to stretch, hide and avoid the truth. There is a big difference between a toxic friend<\/a> and a well-meaning friend who can’t deliver the truth.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

If you are being fed lies by a friend, remember:<\/h2>

1. To compare is to despair<\/a><\/h4>

Your friend\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s version of their reality will be skewed. Try to understand why you are trying to relate with your friend\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s experience or input: are you looking for validation, comfort or are you trying to measure up? Start with your own opinion, and be careful who you ask for input from.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/p>

2. Your friends don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t want the best for you<\/h4>

They want the best for themselves, in their relationship with you, and that may be completely different that what is truly best for you. It might be best for a friend for \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0you continue what you are already doing because changing may disrupt the friendship! If you are looking for a champion that truly wants the best thing for you, hire a coach<\/a> to push you to make the important choices.<\/p>

3. All friends lie and it doesn\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t matter<\/h4>

The\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0reason for lying may not be malicious. It could be embarrassment, or wanting to protect you or your feelings. Your friends are human and fighting the same battle to change, live fully and thwart low-self esteem, so unless it is a toxic friendship, you might want to let it roll.<\/p>

4. Be your own friend first<\/h4>

Sometimes we catch our friends during times that they are able to be there for us, when they don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t have a lot going on in their own lives which makes it easier for them to be accessible. Be\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0your best friend and check in with yourself first before accepting other people’s opinions, perspectives, and beliefs. By\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0learning to become your own best friend<\/a>, you will be able to connect better with others. \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

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