{"id":75,"date":"2009-01-07T12:02:47","date_gmt":"2009-01-07T19:02:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.noomii.com\/?p=75"},"modified":"2009-01-07T12:02:47","modified_gmt":"2009-01-07T19:02:47","slug":"coaching-tip-re-state-and-re-phrase","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=75","title":{"rendered":"Coaching Tip &#8211; Re-State and Re-Phrase"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>To be understood is a great gift. You, as the coach, get to give that gift to your partner.<\/p>\n<p>Listening is the first step.\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 Re-stating and re-phrasing what your partner said is the next step. It confirms that you have heard your partner and it gives him\/her an opportunity to clarify. Re-stating and re-phrasing regularly will strengthen the coaching relationship (or any other relationship for that matter) and build trust. Here&#8217;s an example.<\/p>\n<p>Let your partner know you are actively listening by re-stating what they say.<br \/>\nYour partner\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI just loving playing sports!\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYou\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cGreat, I get that you love playing sports!\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYour partner\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cExactly!\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/p>\n<p>Don\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t be afraid to repeat, word for word, what your partner said. They won\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2t notice unless you do it all the time or do it in a manner that mocks them.<\/p>\n<p>Then, try re-phrasing what your partner said using your own words. Give him\/her time to correct you.<br \/>\nYour partner\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cI just love playing sports!\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYou\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cCool, I get that you love to get outside and exert yourself.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYour partner\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cThat\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00e2\u201e\u00a2s true but I most like the camaraderie of sports.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYou\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cOh, I see. You love playing team sports.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<br \/>\nYour partner\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0\u00c3\u201a\u00c2\u00a0 \u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c5\u201cYes, but not really competitive sports. I prefer casual sports like summer beach volleyball.\u00c3\u00a2\u00e2\u201a\u00ac\u00c2\u009d<\/p>\n<p>See the difference between re-stating and re-phrasing? Re-stating is passive. Re-phrasing is active and requires you to interpret things in your own words.<\/p>\n<p>Happy Coaching,<\/p>\n<p>Christina<\/p>\n<div class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Posts\"><H3>Related Posts<\/H3><ul class=\"entry-meta\"><li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"Trust &#8211; THE Power Tool for Living Large\" href=\"https:\/\/www.noomii.com\/blog\/?p=1676\" rel=\"bookmark\">Trust &#8211; THE Power Tool for Living Large<\/a><\/li>\n<li class=\"SPOSTARBUST-Related-Post\"><a title=\"HELP!  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