WELCOME TO
STOP DIGGING FOR RAINBOWS
LIFE COACHING LLC
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR...
RELATIONSHIP COACHING?
A TRANSFORMATIVE EXPERIENCE?
EDUCATION & ENCOURAGEMENT?
MENTORING?
DIRECT FEEDBACK & GUIDANCE?
SKILLS ACQUISITION?
DO YOU WANT TO REPAIR A STRAINED RELATIONSHIP?
ARE YOU IN SEARCH OF A RELATIONSHIP COACH SO THAT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER LEARN AND PRACTICE SKILLS THAT IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
ARE YOU CONSIDERING LEAVING A RELATIONSHIP? WONDERING IF IT CAN BE SAVED?
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR CO-PARENTING COACHING?
ARE YOU HAVING TROUBLE FREEING YOURSELF FROM A RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU KNOW IS UNHEALTHY FOR YOU?
Family coaching to improve the interactions among family members? Achieve greater peace and love in your home?
Will speaking to a professional help?
Do you wonder if your relationship is healthy? Was healthy?
Are you out of a relationship and still reeling from and confused about what you went through?
Are you questioning whether a relationship, of any kind, serves you and your highest self?
Are you ruminating and stuck in analysis paralysis? Struggling to move forward? Struggling to trust others, and more importantly, trust yourself?
Would you like to know how to protect yourself from manipulation tactics and illogical arguments meant to gain control over you?
Do you experience flashbacks and anger? Even rage?
Are you trying to make sense of it all? Do you find yourself stuck in shame and pain?
Do you want to break down barriers holding you back? Stop self-sabotage?
Do you want to have greater peace and freedom and for that to transform all areas of your life?
Has the Covid 19 pandemic made your feelings of anxiety, immobility, and indecision all the worse? Do you feel even more stuck now than ever before?
Have these challenges of life made it difficult for you to be the person or parent you want to be?
Do you want to improve your relationship with your children by increasing your consciousness and skill set?
Are you and your partner looking to learn skills and improve your relationship? Have greater peace and stability?
Would you like for your family to function more peacefully? Would you like improved interactions and better structure in your home?
Would you like a complimentary ten-minute consultation with a relationship coach to explore your options?
Congratulations. Being here, reading this right now, is the first step towards your transformation. I’m happy you are here.
The next step is to reach out to me.
Relationship Coach
Our coaching practice is offered for a variety of course of life issues. We specialize in an underrepresented and specific type of coaching- narcissistic abuse recovery. It is designed to offer education and support to victims and survivors of Narcissistic, Sociopathic, and Psychopathic abuse, and to anyone questioning the health of a relationship. This is a place to explore whether behaviors in a relationship serve or hinder you. Psychological and emotional abuse can be difficult to identify. Sometimes we need to reach out for help in order to arrive at answers and gain clarity. This is strength.
Parenting Coach
We also specialize in coaching for another of our most sacred relationships- the relationship we have with our children. The quality of the relationship we hold with our children not only impacts our own happiness, but creates the template in our children for the types of relationships they will have in their future. Our parent coaching is geared towards improving parent-child relationships by providing support and increasing a parent’s use of evidence-based positive parenting strategies.
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Our coaching practice is tailored to meet your specific needs. We believe that you are the expert in your own life and we serve as partners in your journey. Our intent is to increase your personal autonomy, build upon the strength that already resides within you, help you achieve clarity, help you solve problems, and assist you with tapping into your full potential. Our mission is to help you identify and develop healthy relationships that enrich your life, not limited to romantic relationships, rather than those that inhibit true love, happiness and growth.
All communication is conducted personally. You will never receive spam e-mail.
Facilitating your transformation
WHY RAINBOWS?
Why is this coaching practice called "Stop Digging for Rainbows?" We all want belonging, love, acceptance, kindness, loyalty, protection, and to truly be seen, heard and valued. We can remain locked in abusive or unhealthy relationships for a number of reasons, but we will never get what our hearts truly desire by searching for it in the wrong places. Life with someone highly narcissistic can be a world turned upside down and topsy-turvy.
A rainbow is light refracted. Light redirected. It reflects light changing course. And you, too, are light changing course, transforming.
THE CONNECTION YOU FELT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR ABUSER EXISTED. IT EXISTED ON A DEEP, PRIMAL, SUBCONSCIOUS LEVEL FOR THE BOTH OF YOU. THAT WAS VERY REAL. SO, TOO, WAS THE PALPABLE DISCONNECT. IF YOU DON'T MAKE THE SUBCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUS, YOU ARE LIKELY TO REPEAT TOXIC PATTERNS AND CONTINUE TO MISTAKE PAIN FOR LOVE.
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Professional Endorsements
Melanie is a great & supportive colleague who I used to work with. Melanie helps many clients tirelessly. She is not afraid to provide clients honest feedback & push them to their higher potentials. I admire her amazing work transforming her clients’ life.
-Santi Wibawantini
Melanie is an extraordinary coach. She embodies the essence of professionalism, integrity, and compassion. I wholeheartedly recommend her services to anyone seeking guidance and support on their journey towards personal and relational growth.
-Dacia, Lumen Counseling
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Testimonials
100 percent of testimonials were provided by paying clients.
100 percent of testimonials submitted appear here.
"Melanie is so kind and understanding"
Melanie is so kind and understanding. Her ability to empathize with us helped bring about a lot of necessary conversations that both my partner and I would've kept hidden on our own. Without judgement, she heard us out and made sure our discussion was clear and without accusations. My partner and I are so much more open with each other now than ever before!
-Cece G
February 22, 2024
"I've never worked with anyone else whose empathy was so apparent"
I have been in and out of therapy since I was four years old (Im 22 now, for reference). I have had some incredible counselors, but let me tell you the work that Ive done with other counselors isnt even comparable to the work that Ive done with Melanie. My husband and I were in desperate need of some help. I found Melanie on PsychologyToday and when I emailed her, I heard back from her within the hour. Right off the bat, she was super communicative, informative, open and inviting. I knew instantly that she would equip my husband and I with effective tools and offer valuable insight. My gut was 100% right. From the first session, it was clear that we would greatly benefit from her help. It took almost no time at all to connect on a deeper level and to dig into the really tough stuff. She makes every session SO safe. There has never been a moment where I have felt invalidated or patronized by her, yet she still knows how to highlight things that you may need to work on in a way that is easy to receive. Melanie sees her clients as people first. Not one person that she works with is just another increase in her paycheck. Seriously. Ive never worked with anyone else whos empathy was so apparent. Nothing is taboo to her. There is safety to talk about the most touchy, uncomfortable topics. Her ability to bring a sense of normalcy to conversations that feel intimidating is very healing. My husband and I genuinely look forward to our sessions even the sessions that we know are going to be really difficult. The insight that Melanie has given us in such a short period of time is priceless. I will most definitely be continuing to see her whenever I can. Melanie is a top-of-the-line counselor.
-Aimee
September 06, 2023
"Within 6 months I felt better than I have in YEARS"
I was lucky enough to come across Melanie on psychology today, looking for a therapist who specializes in narcissist abuse. After failing with traditional therapy and medication therapy, I decided to give her a shot. She is kind, patient and thoughtful. You can tell she really cares about her patients. With her help, I was able to overcome my DEBILITATING ANXIETY and depression that was effecting my physical health (blood pressure, weight gain). She was able to give me answers on things that were pressing on my mind constantly, to make sense of what I experienced in a 10 year marriage to a narcissist that made absolutely no sense to me before. Within 6 months I felt better than I have in YEARS. If you have tried many things and found no relief or improvement in how you feel about yourself or what you have experienced, give her a chance! You will thank yourself for it!
-SS.
August 24, 2023
"Melanie guided me along my journey"
Trying to recover from an unhealthy relationship which had imploded, I was stuck and did not trust myself to know how to move forward. Melanie guided me along my journey challenging me to see fact from fiction, identity thinking patterns which do not serve me, and teaching me to trust myself again. She is so compassionate and I am so thankful for the work we were able to do together.
-Angie E.
August 8, 2023
"I always looked forward to our sessions as I felt heard, understood and empowered"
I'm a survivor of a toxic extreme narcissistic abusive marriage. Melanie listened, understood and analyzed what I told her accurately. She is also very knowledgeable & helped with critical thinking. I really appreciate the psychological and emotional support I got from her. I always looked forward to our sessions as I felt heard, understood and empowered. We developed a healthy client-coach relationship that I enjoyed and felt comfortable. I would highly recommend anyone to Melanie she won't disappoint you!
-Mo
March 22, 2023
"Made me feel very comfortable and helped guide me forward in life after my trauma"
The idea of therapy to me is something I'm not very used to. I had gone to another therapist before to deal with some relationship trauma, but I'm not sure how much I got out of it. As a life coach, Melanie made me feel very comfortable and helped guide me forward in life after my trauma. I normally have trouble sharing my personal feelings and opening up, and Melanie was the first person who made it feel easy to talk. I even began to look forward to our appointments as she always had some valuable insight and was very understanding.
-Matthew Daniels
April 26, 2023
"I am in a much, much better place now mentally and emotionally"
Prior to meeting Melanie, I had difficulties finding someone to talk to who I felt understood what I was going through in terms of a toxic relationship with a family member or strategies for how to deal with the problem. I had felt previous counselors or coaches had tried to steer me in a particular direction and push me to maintain and/or repair a relationship that was actively harming me (causing debilitating anxiety attacks, feelings of severe guilt/depression, frequent night terrors/poor sleep and even feelings of hopelessness). Melanie, however, took me seriously from the beginning. She actively listened as I explained what I was going through, without judgement or an agenda. She asked the right questions, got to the root of the issue, prompted me to think about issues I had not even thought about before and had a number of effective activities for me to do to really examine my own thoughts and feelings. Very important for me, she also came up with concrete strategies for how to cope and respond to the toxic person, knowing I was not ready to cut off ties. I was also encouraged to document what I was thinking/feeling and my interactions with the toxic person, which really helped me visualize what was going on and how it was impacting me. Every session I had with Melanie was constructive and organized and had a plan going forward for next time. Between every session, I felt I was experiencing improvement, or at least developing positive habits that would get me there. Before I met Melanie, I really felt I was having a nervous breakdown, that there was nothing to look forward to, and I couldn't enjoy anything. I felt miserable because an important person in my life had caused me so much harm, and actively sought ways to harm me when I was at my most vulnerable. Melanie helped me relaize that the feelings of guilt and worthlessness I had were unfounded and that I was conditioned to this way by another person's behaviour over a long period of time and put me on the path to recovery. I am in a much, much better place now mentally and emotionally thanks to her help.
-Brian C.
Janruary 22, 2023
"Ability to listen and provide genuine feedback because she cares"
Melanie made it easy to express what I was truly feeling in a safe and open space. Her best trait is her most seamless: her ability to listen and provide genuine feedback because she cares. Melanie is down to earth and the conversations always felt natural. She helped bring me back to rational thinking, and she called out negative thought patterns I had, allowing me to be more aware of them and ultimately change them. She is kind and confident. I recommend Melanie to anyone who is struggling with self love, she will help you form and discover it for yourself. Thank you, Melanie!
-Drew
Janruary 6, 2023
"I have come further and feel healthier than ever in my life"
I would recommend Melanie to any one seeking to change their life and heal through therapy whether male or female. I feel that she's got an understanding of the effects of trauma large and small and is willing to take the time to actually learn you, your past, your future goals and is always there in an emergency situation. I have had many counselors over the years and in the 6 months I have been working with her, I have come further and feel healthier than ever in my life.
-Erika
Janruary 22, 2023
"A huge help with my life's new trajectory"
It took me a while to realize I needed help and felt like I was stuck in a relationship I knew was no good for me. Even after leaving the relationship, I was in a constant back and forth and couldn't fully move away from it. I felt it got harder once I actually moved away. Melanie was and still is, a huge help with my life's new trajectory. She listens and then provides honest, even if hard feedback. I learned a lot about what I was dealing with and why I was struggling the way I was throughout sessions and through the literature she'd provide. Today I am in a much better place emotionally. It's easier to tackle issues that once frightened me and with her help, it's been easy to continue moving forward. My sessions taught me to handle issues logically as opposed to emotionally. Highly recommend!
-D.E
December 3, 2022
"Gracious with her time and attentive"
I was thrilled to find Melanie at a time in my life I needed some support getting through a tough patch with some family issues. She was gracious with her time and attentive during a free phone consultation where I felt very seen and understood immediately. I proceeded to do 10 sessions with her and very quickly began to feel relief. Melanie is incredibly approachable, compassionate, empathetic and her authenticity and personable nature put me at ease right from the start. She has a very intuitive nature and when she reflected back on what I was experiencing it felt incredibly validating. She provided several resources for me during out work, some valuable psycho-education and great guidance. I highly recommend her as a coach as she goes above and beyond and is gifted at her craft.
-Monica L.
June 20, 2022
"Helped me process, understand and work through some really troublesome emotional baggage"
Melanie has been a significant source of support for me throughout a lengthy and difficult custody battle with a high-conflict parent. Beyond support, Melanie has helped me process, understand and work through some really troublesome emotional baggage. My life and parenting wouldn't be the same without her.
-B. Evans
October 25, 2022
"Amazing life coach"
Melanie is an amazing life coach who is willing to let you speak about your problems/issues and then give honest feedback with answers that lead to critical thinking about your life. She's straight forward and has no problem with honesty. After all the counseling I've done in the past; she is hands down, bar none a great blessing in my life as I am going through a traumatic time in life at this point. Great things are going to happen. Thank you, Melanie.
-Darren
October 6, 2022
"Wonderful to work with"
Melanie was wonderful to work with, she listened to me and made me feel comfortable to talk about what was going on with my relationship. She gave excellent advice and even helped me navigate behaviors to look out for and ultimately to help heal myself. I feel a lot more confident and assured with myself that the months I started with.
-Stephanie J.
November 20, 2022
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