Client Details Posted on July 14, 2025

What is your gender?

Female

What do you want to achieve in the next year by hiring a coach?

My partner is not emotionally available and he keeps framing my wanting to feel included as control. I am an overthinker and I value and need constant reassurance to rest my mind. I love too much and whenever I try to communicate what hurt me, he is dismissive and he often invalidates what I feel. He keep putting logic to my emotions to explain why I shouldnt feel hurt but he doesn’t realize that the hurt already happened.. He refuses to acknowledge that I was hurt by his actions unintentionally . He is so tough to me when I only want to be treated with softness.. He want peace but he doensnt make me feel safe.. I always beg him to try to understand to become reassuring.. I am not expecting grand gestures, I just want to see him trying. But he always think my emotions are personal attack to him. He is defensive and never say sorry for making me feel hurt.. He is rational but not emotionally intelligent. He shuts down when we have conflict. I want comfort and resolution. I want to talk about our issue calmly but always ending to shouting and arguing because he always make me feel dismissed and it frustrates me.. I just want him to learn my love language but whenever I tell him what I need to to feel loved, he always frame it as control, that I only want to get it my way, which is so dismissive. I’m really frustrated.

I just want him to say “How did my actions hurt you? And what can I do to make you feel less hurt”
I just want him to be emotionally available to me.. but he doesn’t see it that way. He always accuse me of overreacting and obsessing which invalidates how I feel.. He always say that’s just the way he is and he refuses to change.. He is 48 and I am 34. Can you find a guy coach that can make him realize that he needs to do the emotional work and adjustment in our relationship to keep our relationship strong? Coz honestly, I’ve been giving my everything but I feel like he doesn’t care about how I feel. I just want him to be open to learn mg love language and my language of safety. I get easily hurt by his words because my love language is words. I love him so much and I want to improve our conflict management and way of communicating.. I want him to be reassuring and become my safe space to express what I feel while I am also working on my traumas..

Tell us about yourself.

I am 34, an engineer, soft hearted , always anxious and a giver.. I’m overly emotional, overdramatic.. My partner is an eye doctor and a former pilot. He is 48 . He loves Jesus.. but he has been facing a serious ordeal in his life.. He is tough. He is not emotionally available. He keeps invalidating my feelings and make me feel my emotions are the problem. He doesn’t want to acknowledge that his actions sometimes hurt me.. I overthink a lot as all my exes cheated on me.. But I am easy to please with right reassuring words. My love language is words.. but still my partner never gets to speak my love language. He thinks I’m controlling his life, when what I want is to feel I matter.. My partner is not emotionally available and he keeps framing my wanting to feel included as control. I am an overthinker and I value and need constant reassurance to rest my mind. I love too much and whenever I try to communicate what hurt me, he is dismissive and he often invalidates what I feel. He keep putting logic to my emotions to explain why I shouldnt feel hurt but he doesn’t realize that the hurt already happened.. He refuses to acknowledge that I was hurt by his actions unintentionally . He is so tough to me when I only want to be treated with softness.. He want peace but he doensnt make me feel safe.. I always beg him to try to understand to become reassuring.. I am not expecting grand gestures, I just want to see him trying. But he always think my emotions are personal attack to him. He is defensive and never say sorry for making me feel hurt.. He is rational but not emotionally intelligent. He shuts down when we have conflict. I want comfort and resolution. I want to talk about our issue calmly but always ending to shouting and arguing because he always make me feel dismissed and it frustrates me.. I just want him to learn my love language but whenever I tell him what I need to to feel loved, he always frame it as control, that I only want to get it my way, which is so dismissive. I’m really frustrated. I just want him to say “How did my actions hurt you? And what can I do to make you feel less hurt” I just want him to be emotionally available to me.. but he doesn’t see it that way. He always accuse me of overreacting and obsessing which invalidates how I feel.. He always say that’s just the way he is and he refuses to change.. He is 48 and I am 34. Can you find a guy coach that can make him realize that he needs to do the emotional work and adjustment in our relationship to keep our relationship strong? Coz honestly, I’ve been giving my everything but I feel like he doesn’t care about how I feel. I just want him to be open to learn mg love language and my language of safety. I get easily hurt by his words because my love language is words. I love him so much and I want to improve our conflict management and way of communicating.. I want him to be reassuring and become my safe space to express what I feel while I am also working on my traumas.. I hope you can recommend a guy coach that can encourage my partner to be emotionally available.. so we can build a secure relationship..

What city/town do you live in?

San Pedro, Laguna, Philippines