Who are you? The process of self-discovery

Posted on March 18, 2020 by Miranda Marschalk, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

How does one figure out who they are? I mean at their core. The process of self-discovery. This is a very important question. It will empower you if you can figure this out.

When I was 17, I was young and determined to do what I wanted, when I wanted, wherever I wanted that to be. My first order of business was to live my life on my terms, which meant finding the love of my life, starting a family and having unconditional love. How messed up was that dream at 17?

Well, little did I know, if you really want something and put this want out into the universe…you’re likely to get it. So yes, I found what I thought was the love of my life, got pregnant (at 17) and no I did not exactly live happily ever after. The pregnancy had me on cloud nine but the relationship quickly fell apart when the baby arrived. While the connection to one another stayed till this day, the ‘in love’ part fizzled out fast. Luckily we remain good friends and raised our daughter well.

What does this all have to do with self-discovery and figuring out who you are? Well, through this experience I learned a lot. I’m great at taking risks, I’m very independent (almost to a fault), I’m self-driven and have a lot of inner strength. I also learned that I need love to survive, I need to be needed and I don’t like to be alone.

This brings us to the present day. If I had not learned these things about myself I never would have had the courage to go back to high school at the age of 28, get my GED and complete my nursing degree. Yes, it took a lot of time to get back on track. Raising a child takes much time and effort. However, I did get back on track, and I didn’t stop there. I took my nursing career to great heights, starting off as a floor nurse and walking up the ladder to a Regional Director of Nursing position.

It was this exposure to new and exciting career adventures that lead me to Life Coaching. The cherry on top, if you will. I have gained a lot of experience with very diverse individuals from diverse cultural backgrounds and diverse intellectual ways of thinking.

I have lead group therapy sessions for Mental Health, mentored other nurses coming up the ranks, given my time to help the less fortunate, cultivated change in myself and others, and through it all I have learned more and more about myself. This is who I am at my core; a good listener, an engaged adviser, an enthusiastic cheerleader, and a knowledgeable individual. This is the process of self-discovery.

You see, figuring out who you are never really ends, it continues as you grow as a human being. But you need to start somewhere to know what you really want out of life and a Life Coach can help you do that and so much more. Once you know who you are now, you can begin to figure out what you want now and in the future and take the steps necessary to get there. What I didn’t mention was the all-important plan of action I had to make and stick to, to achieve my goals.

A Life Coach can certainly help with that. Remember, no dream is too big and no effort is too small, especially when we are talking about your future