A coach's guide to living well
Here are some of my tried-and-true tips and tricks to help you cope with life in 2020 and beyond.
How is your 2020 going so far? Are you staying on track with your intentions? Or are you finding yourself sliding into old habits? Here are some of my suggestions to help you cope with the realities of life in these often troubling and unsettling times. Hopefully some of these will resonate and provide some fresh perspectives.
Begin by thinking of your health in a comprehensive way. This includes nutrition, exercise, sleep, work-life balance and the relationships with people around you. When things feel out of whack, try to identify which areas of your life require your attention.
Find something that makes your heart sing, that you can feel proud of, and that gives you a sense of achievement. If you’re having a bad day or a bad week, you have a go-to safety net, something that will always give you comfort.
Living well is about living your truth. I spent so many years working in an office trying to convince myself that I was happy, but my soul was yearning for more. When I finally decided to take the plunge and start my own coaching practice, I felt like I was finally in alignment with my purpose.
We are way too critical with ourselves. Be more compassionate, starting with yourself. I know it’s hard for some of us to hear, but we’re not supposed to be perfect all the time.
Sometimes what feels like a breakdown is actually a spiritual awakening. In the midst of the sadness and despair, real healing can begin. As Dr. Nicole LePera writes, “love the light, love the dark.” And remember, there are moments of real and profound joy to be found on a healing journey.
I don’t know about you, but life in 2020 is beyond exhausting! There’s always so much do, so much to buy, so many ways in which we are supposed to live our best lives. I often remind my clients how important it is to tune out all the noise and prioritize rest and recovery. One of the most radical and empowering things you can do for yourselves is carve out time in your day for reflection and solitude.
Speaking of tuning out noise, I’m striving to simplify my relationship with my phone and social media. Some days are better than others, but I’m working on it!
My therapist (hey, if you’re not in therapy in 2020 you’re definitely missing out—also there’s no shame in getting help!) taught me something that really struck with me. We are so disconnected from our bodies, and yet they are talking to us all the time. So next time you have to make a decision tune in to what your body is telling you and ask yourself “is this a body yes or a body no?” Listening to your body will lead to making better decisions, I promise.
Regarding boundaries, I really love these communication tips from psychotherapist Sara Kuburics: “say yes when you mean yes; say no when you mean no; say I don’t know when you don’t know.” How liberating is that?
Drink more water. Have more orgasms. ‘Nuff said.