Why Trying To Please Everyone Just Won’t Work
Posted on July 22, 2020 by Raphaela Browne, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Sometimes we give so much of ourselves to everything and everyone else that it's at the detriment of your mental, emotional and physical health
Last week, I was thinking about my clients and in general, women who give so much of themselves, but to the detriment of their spirit. And it’s definitely nothing wrong with giving and looking out for others (I’m all for helping, supporting and cheering on people). However, when the giving is at the point of others taking you for granted, abusing you, or you are losing a sense of who you are because you have a strong need to please others and can’t fathom the word “No”. Then it’s time to take a step back to see why you’re doing this and what your fears are about not doing it.
Below is a heart to heart reminder I wrote just for you.
I know you have given so much of yourself to others. Trying to prove you are more than what they think of you, trying to keep up a façade to hide what’s truly behind the mask, wanting others to feel good, but to the detriment of who you are. It ends up slowly chipping away at you and you somehow begin to lose pieces of yourself.
I need you to know that you do not need to prove to others what you already have inside. You are enough. It’s time for you to start believing that. You don’t have to do things for people to love and accept you, because the right people will be drawn to you whether you are at your best or at your worst.
Those people who truly see you, will want the best for you and will not try to strip or water you down, so you can fit into their world.
Again, you are enough. You are more than what you can do for people. You are you. Wonderfully made in God’s image. He dwells right within and that my dear is a good enough reminder that greatness has always been with you.
When you spend more time nurturing yourself, you will have more to offer your family, friends, work, this world. You see, taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do. Learning what’s truly important in your life will open your eyes to those things you’re doing out of perceived obligation and those things you’ve unintentionally forgotten about, because it was replaced with superficial desires and things not really connected to you.
It’s time to let some things go to make room for what you deserve and quite frankly need in your life to truly live. Do not spend this one life of yours trying to live up to the expectations of others, trying to fill a void by being or doing things for others that’s not at all aligned with who you are. In general, it’s time to stop living a fake life.
It’s time to do the work that ignites your spirit and soul, it’s time to do the work that will lead you that much closer to who you were created to be. It’s simply time.Write that book,
Book that vacation,
Let go of that demeaning relationship,
Develop new positive relationships,
Start healing,
Start believing in better for your life,
Start taking action and stop procrastinating,
Start showing the REAL you,
Start loving…. YOURSELF MORE!
You know why? Because the more you take care of your inner self the more happiness you will begin to see around you. The life you want begins on the inside.
Inward growth produces outward success; there’s no way around it. Be honest enough with yourself to do the work that will change your life.
