A Deeper Look At Positive Thinking
Posted on July 17, 2011 by Christine Ada, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Thinking positively might seem pretty generic for some people. Others find this to be second nature. Our subconscious feelings are key.
Thinking positive and feeling positive may not always go hand in hand. Your feelings exist at a level which is deeper than your conscious mind. Every one of us is the result of different circumstances in life. And every one of us processes life’s events differently.
The Realm of Subconscious Feelings
When I use the term, subconscious, I am simply talking about the aspect of ourselves (which is far more vast than most people would imagine)which lies beneath our conscious awareness. Our thoughts lie in our head for the most part. Our feelings exist in parts of our brain, such as the amygdala, limbic system and throughout our bodies, particularly in heart, solar plexus, naval and pelvic floor.Our subconscious stores deeply held feelings of sadness, anger, disappointment and resentment. Of course, this is true to different degrees for different people. Many of us did not get all their needs fulfilled as children. Our conscious minds will tell us that the past is the past. Our subconscious selves tell a different story. If you are interested in learning more, there is a book by Karol Truman called . We might choose to be positive. But staying on this trajectory might be somewhat challenging if you have not worked to transform the emotional blocks that keep you from feeling positive.
A Deeper Look At Positive Thinking
Positive thinking will only be helpful if we have a good working relationship with our inner feelings. This is what Harvard psychologist, Daniel Goleman calls Emotional Intelligence. He has also written a book by this very title.
How to Develop A Stronger Relationship Between Your Thinking Mind and Your Emotions
- Practice present moment awareness. Be in the present moment and witness how you feel and what you are thinking from the perspective of an objective bystander. Pay attention to your body.What does your body language say? What muscles are relaxed. Where in your body do you feel tense?
- Be completely honest with yourself and your true feelings. The more honest you are with parts of yourself that you would rather suppress, the better. Be honest about your positives and feelings that are not all that pretty. However, it is imperative that you take full responsibility for your emotions. Do not take out your feelings on others. Use positive and constructive communication in your interactions with other people.
- Identify where your feelings reside in your body. Use your breath to reach into those feelings and exhale any emotional baggage that is weighing you down.
- Transmute your feelings about the past. Past events that you have not resolved exist within you as a type of emotional imprint. Tell yourself (at the deep level, where your natural breath is connected to your solar plexus) that you are bigger than your past. And at the present moment you choose to transmute old emotional patterns into more positive ones.
- Be aware of where your true inner dialogue stems from in your body. Change any negative self talk by incorporating positive thought statements into this area. In other words, don’t just use your head or the part of your mind that just chatters throughout the day. Practice, practice and practice until you are not just thinking positively, but actually feeling positive as well.