3 Tips to Showing Up (when you just don't feel like it!)

Posted on November 13, 2020 by Jessica Rosario, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.

Ever had those days when you know deep down that you have things to do but just don’t know where to start? How about when you need to show up for others but can’t seem to be able to show up for yourself? Trust me… I’ve had those moments too and I’d love to share with you the three tips that have helped me in this very season.

Can I be vulnerable for a moment? The past week I’ve had to face some personal challenges that I was not prepared for. It totally threw me off balance and left me thinking “I’m a productivity coach. I can’t afford to not plan.” How about “Jessica, you didn’t make the time to time-block conflict?” Or how about just the thought of not giving myself permission to process? And when I say process, I mean cry! Cry my eyeballs out!

Let me share with you these tips that I hope you are able to find helpful if or when life happens.
1) Self-Reflection
Take the time to reflect on the things you can control and what you cannot. Ask yourself questions like: “What could I do differently?”, “What am I scared of?”, “Am I using my time effectively on the things I have total control of?”

When we reflect, we tend to give ourselves a level of self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and understand that you can’t control every circumstance or every person’s words, thoughts, or actions. Give yourself some grace, meditate or even more so, pray the serenity prayer:

God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference.

2) Self-Accountability
I know you’re probably asking yourself “how can I hold myself accountable when I can’t even think?” Well, it doesn’t come easy. But here’s what worked for me. Remember your to-do list that I always talk about? Have it in your face at all times. Particularly when you have others waiting on you!

3) Self-Isolate
This comes easier said than done, but I found the little bit of solitude helped me get my mindset back on track. With COVID-19 being still very prominent in our country, it’s difficult to go out. However, if you can head out to the beach, sit at a bench in the park, or settle down for a bit at a coffee shop, or library (if one’s open). Just take some time to do the first two tips I shared.

The thing is, sometimes we need to think. And when we don’t change scenery, thinking about conflict is all you can manage to do. So make every effort to isolate for a bit.

Now, this doesn’t mean stay away from your support groups… This means just give yourself time to think without noise. A clouded and cluttered mind, does nothing.

These three tips helped me show up at every coaching session with my amazing clients, in my FB group posts even when I couldn’t find myself jumping on FB live, in writing my blog posts for the remainder of the year, and in my wonderful masterminds, cheerleaders and accountability circles. Not showing up will hinder your progression and stop you in your tracks. And let’s face it, there’s motivation when there’s movement. You are doing better than you think you are!

So let’s fast-present, since we can’t seem to be able to fast-forward (corny I know! lol) and breath! Let me remind you that this too shall pass. And if you’re one of those who’s life doesn’t happen to or for them, hey… you need to share some tips!

What’s your process? Do you have any tips and tricks you’d like to add?

I can’t wait to hear about some of the tips that have helped you keep showing up!
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