STUCK IN A COCOON AT MIDLIFE

Posted on August 25, 2011 by Marty Garrett, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Do you ever feel like your life is wrapped in a cocoon? It’s a cozy familiar comfort zone, yet it limits your ability to step out into a bigger context.

Your discomfort with change – stuckness, resentment, sadness, fear of rejection, and anger — all keep you stuck in a cocoon. The more these feelings surround you, the stronger they become and the smaller you become. You yearn to step out into the world but it feels too scary. It is easier to live in a protected place than to take the risk of opening your heart and discovering ways to let go of your habitual thinking.

With many clients, I have noticed that when they get in touch with their feelings of despair, longing, and disquiet, they tend to withdraw and return to a place of safety. Many times clients are afraid to move forward with the coaching process, but discover that facing negative feelings turns out to be empowering.

Change takes courage and the willingness to take responsibility for your own behaviors. Emerging from your cocoon happens slowly over time. The process involves paying attention and listening to your heart. The journey involves slowly emerging from your safe place in a pattern of opening up and withdrawing, having the patience to know that it is possible to experience the freedom and beauty of a butterfly.

You have the choice to decide to awaken to your life, as opposed to simply letting it go by. You may continue to hold onto your negative beliefs and stay stuck in your familiar patterns, or you may choose to do something different.

The process of working with me can support you in emerging from your cocoon to transform your life and live boldly. Time goes by quickly, particularly during midlife. Would you like some support as you navigate the uncharted territory of this precious stage in your development?