You Don't Understand What I Mean

Posted on September 15, 2021 by Ashish Bobade, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.

No, I don’t remember you telling me this. Yes, I told you this clearly, but you don’t listen to me.
We might have heard of the above conversation in multiple places like at home, school, offices. People try to communicate, but many times, there is a misunderstanding.

So why does this happen? Why do we see such a communication gap? The reason is not always ignorance or not listening carefully while we communicate. This is our Mind game which is happening all the time.
On social media, while posting any new photo nowadays, we apply filters to make that picture look beautiful. Similarly, while we are feeding information to our brain, we apply filters to it. But the only difference is it will not always make that look or feel beautiful. Yes, that is right unconsciously for all of us; filters are applied to anything we learn.

When I say, learning don’t misunderstand it by things like study which we do in school, college or while appearing for any exam. We human beings are continuously learning every moment using our five sense organs. In computers language, we call them input devices.

The information which these sense organs send to the brain doesn’t go directly to the brain; yeah, you got it right, it is not going directly. It has to wait before it reaches the brain in the waiting room.
The filters are applied to this information. There are mainly 3 types of filters Delete, Distort and Generalise. Due to these filters, when information reaches our brain gets deleted, distorted, and generalized. This activity happens in a fraction of seconds unknowingly. This waiting room is called the Reticular Activating System.

You might have experienced this, especially when you are addressing a group of people. When we pass the same information to them, everyone understands it differently. Let me prove this by the example.
Read the text below.
Your task is straightforward: take out only 30sec and, read it, and find out how many ‘F’ is present in the sentence. Note it down and ask your family member to do the same.

“Finished files are the result of years of scientific study combined with the experience of many years of expert You will find even though me are reading.”

Would you please not try to re-read it and note how many ‘F’ is present in the sentence?
Would you please Stop if you have not done the above assignment? Please finish it first before going ahead.
Even though we are reading the same sentence, different people will come up with different counts. Try this at least with 2-3 people. Interesting?
This happened because the information is getting deleted. We often feel that another person is not paying attention or focusing, which is why this happens. This leads to misunderstanding, and we have seen many students, couples, colleagues facing challenges due to this communication gap.
So you will ask what the solution to this problem? We can use proven methods to make sure these filters are not applied while we listen, teach, or give instructions to others.

Life will be so easy for business people if they can communicate their ideas clearly to clients. Teachers can teach once, and students understand and remember everything. Employees can understand what the boss wants to say.

I hope I can add some new information to your neural pathway without any filters. If you want to learn how to use your brain’s superpower to Double Your Productivity and Income I have a special gift for you. You can watch my brand new masterclass by following the simple link BrainGyan.in/masterclass.

Ashish Bobade
Author | Speaker | Coach