Posted on September 15, 2011 by Maria McInnis, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
A reflection on courage and fear and using NLP to change your life.
To be strong within ourselves, we must be willing to challenge fear, to look beyond and recognize our false beliefs as obstacles that can be easily overcome if only we seek the wisdom of our own minds and bodies. The connection between mind and body is an amazing one that allows us to transform our own lives into what we want.
One of my favourite books called “Way of the Peaceful Warrior”, talks about exactly this, and I want to take a moment to reflect upon inner strength, and the things that a person can do to realize it.
In NLP we have a principle that states that “People have all the resources they need to achieve their desired outcomes“. What this means is that these resources are within yourself all the time. They can be determination, confidence or even simple patience. Everyone of us has these things at some time or another, and to succeed in realizing our inner strength we must embrace these resources and identify what it is that we have. We must embrace them, and recognize that of them all, our determination and persistence is what will carry us through.
I have a magnet on my refrigerator that reminds me of this every day. It says “Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education alone will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” That, to me, is one of the most important principles of strength.
Just today I was called a warrior woman for this very attitude, and it made me smile, especially with the fact that I had just re-read Mr. Millman’s excellent book, but it never fails to amaze me how amazing life is to live when one takes to heart the lessons that one learns. It reminds us to have the courage to remain determined, and to love. Rise to the occasion so that you can look back and feel good about the life you have lived. That is inner strength.
And as the Law of Attraction reminds us, “As Within, So Without”. When we have inner strength, we will attract better things to us. When it shines through, others will recognize it, and be drawn to us. It’s an amazing thing really, the power of inner strength. We feel better, we function better, and things begin to change as though by magic.
That is why attitude is so important in life, because of the affect it has upon our physiology. Find the love in what you do each and every single moment that you live, and you will begin to understand.
Inner strength is not about not having fear. Sometimes, as Richard Bandler likes to remind us, fear is a good thing. It can help us to survive. Inner strength is about recognizing that the fear is there, but doing things anyway. Once you do, it becomes easier, and after a while, it even becomes natural. The first time I sang up on stage, I was a wreck, but I did it anyhow. I was so scared that I got sick afterwards. But the next time, I had already done it, and it became easier. Now I have no fear of getting up there and doing it. The fear has become a thrill, and part of my own strength. When later I began public speaking, I had no problems because I simply told myself ‘Hey, is this really going to be any different?’
“When running up a hill, it is all right to give up as many times as you wish–as long as your feet keep on moving.” – Dan Millman.
Inner strength is about getting up when you fall, and about being aware of your surroundings. It’s about overcoming the powerlessness of fear and transforming it into the absolute, unlimited power of courage. With determination and persistence it can be achieved.
All you need to be willing to do is to take the first step.
Quantum Performance Management – Maria McInnis