Learning Success
Posted on September 20, 2011 by Maria McInnis, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
A reflection upon how the language we use can affect our chances at succeeding
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go – William Feather
These words couldn’t be any more true when we think about what they really mean. Success is about keeping on something when others have failed, meaning that sometimes the most important part of success is the small incidents that most call failures that we achieve along the way.
In NLP we state that there is “No failure, only feedback”. What does this mean will taken in the context of achieving our goals? This means that rather than seeing things as proof that we never should have tried, we should respect it as a lesson learned along the way. If you “fail” you have just learned one way not to do something.
Edison, when he invented the light bulb, didn’t get it right immediately, and when asked it later he is reputed to have said that he had learned 1000 ways not to make a light bulb. Yet, he didn’t give up despite those lessons learned. Each one made him more determined to get it right.
In this we must realize that perfection is not something that is automatic within ourselves: it is something we learn along the way. If we never try, we’ll never have the chance to succeed. We must push past our self-made resistance in order to achieve anything.
Without persistence, determination and the ability to take rejection as a constructive force very little can be done. And in order to achieve these skills we must first change ourselves and our outlooks.
Using more positive language, such as that taught in NLP can help one achieve these changes. Using “Will” or “can” instead of “Try”. A good one I learned is instead of saying “I don’t know” I say “I don’t know yet” meaning that I will be moving forward in order to learn instead of allowing myself to be stifled. Simple phrases, but they easily make a world of difference!
Never limit yourself, and never let anyone dictate the limits of your skills. You can learn success, and you can make a difference in your life, and in the lives of those around you.
Quantum Performance Management – Maria McInnis
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