What if an email triggers me?
Posted on December 14, 2021 by Irina Ulanova, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Some things trigger our emotions and as a result, we perceive things in a distorted way
A lot of what is happening is neutral. Some things trigger our emotions and fire neuro pathways that may not be resourceful. As a result, we perceive things in a distorted way, and it shifts our experience of the day.
One of the practical tools is to notice your own response to external inputs – whether that are words, tastes, temperature, sounds, facial expressions, tones of voice, and so on. Question your own response to situations and people.
Does cold/heat or sounds impact your perception? Does somebody’s facial expression at the moment really exemplify a meaning that you give it? Or is it just what it is? What if your mind adds meaning to something neutral or to something that does not necessarily belong to this specific moment but comes from the past?
For example, reading an email that has triggered you, try to read at least it in two different ways – check what it would “sound like” if the person has written it with the best intentions, genuine care, with respect and love. You may notice that some phrases have appeared differently and got a new meaning. Craft your response from this new perspective. By doing so you are uplifting the communication, changing the environment around you, shifting the culture from within.
Notice an impact from your own presence and intentionality.
