I am not Enough. Note to Self: You are Enough!
Posted on July 28, 2022 by Sarah Poynter, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Stories we play in our head contribute to feeling like we are not enough. The reality? Most of those stories have no degree of truth.
I recently listened to a webinar hosted by Modern Elder Academy, “Get Unstuck & Find Joy in a Career Swerve with Chip Conley, Aaron Taylor, & Janis Nakano Spivack.” Aaron Taylor one of the speakers was a former NFL star, first round draft pick, played for two NFL teams and was inducted into the College Football Hall of Fame. But, and this is a big but, Aaron talked about always feeling like he was not enough. How many of us can relate to this? How many of us can be vulnerable enough to admit it?
What Aaron realized is that he had been TOO MUCH OF WHAT HE IS NOT! Too much insecurity, doubt, arrogance, righteousness, etc. But as he began to slowly let these things go, by recognizing that the things we come into this world with are not our “fault” but our “default,” we can begin to change these feelings and behaviors and rewire towards those behaviours and values that more closely align to our dreams and goals.
Easier said than done, I know. I struggle with this a lot. It shows up as sleepless nights, rumination, anxiety and barriers that prevent me from getting out of my own way. But there is a way out of this constant rumination and feeling of self doubt. It begins by becoming aware of these feelings of self doubt and exploring where they came from. Being aware of them, and when they show up allows us to challenge them, validate their truth. Likely these are old stories played in our heads over years and years and the reality is these stories have almost no truth to them.
Are you struggling with not feeling enough, based on experiences that perhaps no longer have any truth, and no longer serve you? Are they holding you back from being the best you can be? Are you frustrated with the 3 am anxiety jolt out of bed from these insecurities and fears. Let’s work together and unpack these to get you on your way to living your best life!
