Getting Stuck in Our Beliefs

Posted on February 05, 2010 by Raymond Rigoglioso, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

Everything we have, and everything we will ever have, starts with desire. We identify something we want, and we take action to seek it. But in order for it to manifest, we must believe that it is possible. This is where many of us get stuck.

For most of us, it is relatively easy to believe that we can have essentials like food and shelter. When we were children, the adults around us modeled the belief that these things could be obtained, and we saw the adults take action to secure these things. We have every reason to believe that we can do likewise.

Attaining what our heart desires is not so different. It requires the same steps:

• Clarifying what we want

• Taking action to achieve it

• Firmly believing that the dream is possible

But because we see far fewer people modeling this behavior, it takes a certain courage and trust. It also requires that we strengthen our beliefs, for we must take and sustain concerted action before we see evidence of our dream becoming reality.

Just like the food and shelter we have sought, we can only attain what our heart desires when we believe it is possible. The good news is, once we change our thinking, the pieces of the dream start to line up.

Is something getting in the way of your dream? Here is an exercise that can help shed some light on the subject:

• What is the thing that you want most right now?

• Or, this might be more illuminating: What is the thing you want the most that you doubt you’ll ever have?

• Why do you deserve it?

• What would having this thing give you?

• Name the 10 thoughts you would need to change in order to have this thing.

As this exercise begins to clarify, our greatest roadblocks often come from within.
We create our own limits, which can include:

• The belief that what we want is not practical

• A stronger belief in our lack than in our capabilities

• Romanticizing modesty

• Demonizing success

• Having negative judgments about wealth

• Fear of failure

• Fear of success

• Or any number of mental defenses

Clearing out our limiting beliefs can often be an ongoing process, and it is why most successful people seek support. To get support, confide in a friend who you trust and who truly wants you to succeed. Speak with people in your life who have attained a cherished dream and find out how they did it. Or find a coach to help you navigate this process.

Whatever you do, take an honest look at the thoughts that hold you back. If you are willing to change those beliefs, what your heart desires will come as surely as the food and shelter you have already manifested in your life.

© 2008 Raymond L. Rigoglioso