Are You a Compulsive Spender?
Posted on October 23, 2011 by Lynn Telford-Sahl, One of Thousands of Money and Finance Coaches on Noomii.
Do you overspend when you're stressed, bored or anxious? Then feel guilty? Women piddle their money (& power) away with overspending and debt.
Are You a Compulsive Spender?
Take this short quiz*:
1) Do you shop, (in stores or on the net) to escape feeling stressed**, bored, lonely, empty, defeated, angry or scared?
2) After a setback or disappointment, does it feel like spending money will help you feel better? (It does, temporarily.)
3) Does your shopping or spending create conflicts for you, or between you and others?
4) When you shop or buy something, does your mood change?
5) Are you unable to enjoy your purchases because you feel guilty or bad?
If you answered YES to any of these you may be using money or shopping as a way to regulate your feelings or self-esteem.
First of all, good for you for taking time to get honest. Have you tried any of these to change your behavior? Promised to never overspend again to a spouse or yourself? Cut up your credit cards? One woman froze hers. That’s a pretty good in-between strategy and works similarly to not keeping sweets in the house when dieting and does slow down the impulsivity).
But creating superficial limitations are bandaids on spending problems. The real solution comes from dealing with the feelings that are driving the behavior and by being willing to explore your relationship with money.
Try this: Next time you want to shop put the PAUSE BUTTON** into effect and check in with yourself first. Ask: Am I stressed, bored, or anxious? If so, about what? Notice where in your body you notice the feelings – belly, head, heart? Then take 10 deep breaths and with each exhale imagine breathing out the uncomfortable feelings. Then, decide if you want to shop or not.
