The Most Important Component in a Healthy Relationship
Posted on February 08, 2010 by Nakita W Scott, One of Thousands of Christian Coaches on Noomii.
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When you ask most people what they think is the most important component of a healthy relationship,you are likely to get answers such as sex, love, commitment, honesty, and trust. I agree that those are all important. However, there is one component that rises above all of these-friendship.
Often times, when we are dating or courting that special someone, we get caught up in the “butterfly moments”. You know, the kisses, the hand-holding, and the sweet and romantic gestures. All of these things at the beginning of a relationship lead us to believe that the relationship is meant to be and that we will live happily ever after. The truth is, as relationships mature and grow, so do the people who are involved in them. What was sweet and cute in the beginning may be annoying and disruptive later on. Most people who recite their wedding vows do so without believing that the negative end of the spectrum will ever happen. But it does. And when it does, that is when most marriages go into crisis mode.
But this can all be avoided by implementing one step-becoming friends first. Friendship is the most important component in a healthy relationship. When you think of one of your closest friends, you instantly remember those moments when they were there for you even in the worst of times. Our friends know our deepest, darkest secrets, pet peeves, insecurities, fears and weaknesses. And yet, even through all of these things, they have been there for us without reservation. They have stuck by us through thick and thin and their love for us is constant and unconditional. Friends are honest with one another and hold nothing back.Friends appreciate each other for who they truly are. Friends are there when no one else is to be your shoulder to lean on or your personal cheerleader. With our friends, we are our true selves.
The dynamics of marriage constantly change. However, if we become friends before we become lovers and spouses, as each person grows and matures, the relationship will survive because friendship withstands the tests of time and change