SHOULDS/COULDS Can'ts/Won'ts Wants/Needs: part 2 of 3
Posted on November 10, 2011 by Andrea Burk, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.
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Shoulds are Obsessive thinking laden with… • Guilt • Forced obligation • No choice or self-determination • Disempowerment • Gloominess • Punishment if you don’t do it • Less feelings of joy upon completion • “Phew…glad that’s over with!” Coulds are Harmonious thinking allowing for… • Ownership • Empowerment • Flow • Self-determination • Personal choice • Focus on goals • Achievement • Feelings of accomplishment on a job well done • “YES!”