Look in the mirror…what do you really see?

Posted on November 15, 2011 by Eudine Herbert, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.

Who are you? No really, WHO ARE YOU? If you really know who you are then you would probably know how to respond to difficult or conflict situations. But most of us don’t know who we really are inside, and so we avoid or just jump in blindly when it comes to handling difficult situations.

For example, perhaps the person that you see in the mirror you believe to be stable and creative with a healthy emotional expression. That person has a blend of strength, sensitivity and creativity that you really admire – and others do too because they’ve told you as much. But what you don’t see or chose not to acknowledge is the insecurity and self-doubt that lies just beneath the surface. Yes, that is you, the real you. That air of confidence that everyone admires is also hiding your insecurity and self-doubt.

Now that you know you have these underlying issues, isn’t it safe to say that perhaps the way you handled past conflicts was based solely on these traits and not the air of confidence that you put out there for everyone to see. It’s the insecurity and self-doubt that drives your need to express your anger or resentment every single time, no matter what. And you analyze everything to death which only puts you into deeper hot waters.

Start today and get to know the real you – not just your strengths, but also your weaknesses. Don’t hide your weaknesses, bring them out and confront them. When you acknowledge what they are, you can better understand why you re-act to certain situations the way that you do. You will know the next step to take, how and when to take that step each and every time you are faced with a difficult or conflict situation.

Perhaps you’ve been thinking about getting a coach, but weren’t sure why you might need one. As your conflict resolution coach, I can help you learn more about your communication and conflict management styles; develop new options and strategies for managing any existing conflicts; gain confidence in your own abilities to manage and resolve those conflicts knowing that you have someone to support you. Take the next step and call me @ 813-868-7697 (10am to 4pm Est.) to set an appointment for a FREE strategy session. Feel free to stop by www.HerbertMediationCenter.com for more information.

Until next time…

Resolve It Now!

“Life is a dance if you take the steps: one step, then another.” [Anonymous]