Announcing the launch of my relationship book "The Empowered Lover"
Posted on July 17, 2023 by Arno Koch, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
The Empowered Lover covers the astonishing science of how you can elevate your relationship even if your partner doesn't want to change.
On my journey as a coach, I noticed one significant problem with relationship books: they provide amazing advice. However, as a reader, one tends to focus on the things they are already doing right while paying close attention to the areas in which their partner falls short.
“The Empowered Lover” is different. It examines typical relationship situations from the perspective of each partner. Regardless of whether you believe you are right or wrong, you will find empowering tools and strategies to respond in a way that benefits the relationship.
The book is divided into five parts:
Part 1: It’s all in your head, but is it? This section provides insights into the unconscious mind and offers a deep understanding of how both you and your partner are primarily driven by unconscious patterns that emerge during stressful situations. It helps you develop empathy and compassion—not to weaken your boundaries but to enforce them in a loving manner.
Part 2: Overcoming the shadows of the past. In this part, you will explore the emotional baggage that you and your partner may carry and understand its impact. You will also find options to overcome some of those traumas, to the extent possible, by following the instructions in the book.
Part 3: Mastering the inside game. Effective communication with yourself is the first step in solving or preventing conflicts. By mastering your expressions of frustration, including your body language, and understanding how your body responds to your partner’s expressions of frustration, you are creating a foundation for effective communication with your partner, which is covered in the next part.
Part 4: Love-Based Language. Love-Based Language is a term I use to describe effective communication within an intimate relationship. It involves setting and enforcing boundaries with love, apologizing and forgiving transgressions, showing empathy and compassion in a way that your partner truly feels, and much more. However, a relationship is not solely about resolving conflicts. If that’s the only aspect you improve, you may still find yourself in an unhappy relationship, just with better fights. That doesn’t sound like fun. Therefore, there is a dedicated chapter that helps you create happiness in average moments as well, by showing appreciation and gratitude while remaining true to yourself. Remember, relationships are not just about happiness; they are about authenticity. Only when you are authentic can you experience genuine happiness.
Part 5: The nuances of relationships. This part is for individuals who are contemplating leaving a relationship or are between relationships. It explores the many pitfalls that are rarely discussed. This section sets you up for success in finding a long-term partner.
“The Empowered Lover” will launch as a Kickstarter campaign on July 17, aimed at finding its readers. If you believe this is a worthy project to support, search for “The Empowered Lover” on Kickstarter.com.
Much love,
Arno
