Understanding Our True Selves Is the Starting Point for Deep Change and Growth
Posted on August 12, 2025 by Mahesh Sharma, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Lasting transformation commences not with strategy, but with self-understanding, self-awareness, and inner alignment.
In my years of coaching, one truth has consistently emerged: meaningful change doesn’t start with action – it begins with awareness. Specifically, with the kind of awareness that comes from understanding and knowing our true selves.
This isn’t a philosophical ideal. It’s a lived experience I witness repeatedly in my clients. Whether they seek clarity in their careers, emotional healing, or personal growth, the turning point is nearly always the moment they start to see themselves more clearly – not as they’ve been conditioned to be, but as they truly are.
I have been working on inherent behaviour, temperament, and sensitivity for almost two decades, and even today, when I sit with someone to help them navigate the complexities of their lives, gaining clarity or discussing their blind spots—often the process truly begins when they have their a-ha moment of self-awareness and self-understanding.
We live in a world that often values performance more than presence, and adaptation more than authenticity. Many of us learn to wear masks, meet expectations, and pursue goals that don’t fully align with our inner values. Over time, this disconnection leads to emotional fatigue, confusion, and a quiet sense of misalignment. That’s where the journey inward becomes not just beneficial but essential.
In my coaching practice, I guide and work with clients through this journey using a blend of emotional intelligence, innate behavioural decoding, contextual awareness, and energy psychology. We explore the layers—beliefs, patterns, emotional residues—that obscure their true self. And as those layers begin to lift, something remarkable happens: they start to feel calmer. more grounded, more confident, and more alive.
Knowing your true self isn’t about reaching a fixed identity. It’s about developing a relationship with yourself that is honest, compassionate, and ever-changing. It’s about recognising your sensitivities, not as weaknesses but as sources of insight. It’s about understanding your emotional landscape so you can navigate life with greater clarity and resilience.
Clients frequently tell me that once they reconnect with their true self, decisions become simpler. Relationships seem more genuine. Goals feel more significant. And growth—real, sustainable growth—becomes achievable.
So when I say that it all begins with knowing our true selves, I mean it quite literally. It’s the foundation on which everything else is built. Without it, change remains superficial. With it, transformation becomes inevitable.
Just for clarity, I believe that knowing our true self is the essential foundation for meaningful growth and deep change, so much so that I even named my research portal ‘Know Your True Self Research Academy’ in 2008. To this day, I stand by this philosophy, which is based on my decades of transformative, impactful, and meaningful coaching of hundreds of individuals from various backgrounds.
