Heal Every Version of Yourself

Posted on August 20, 2025 by Carolline Day, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

I’m exhausted. I have officially saved all versions of myself.

Five years ago, I decided to go to therapy for the first time, discovering EMDR along the way. During that first session, a vivid memory surfaced: my dad, my sister, and I crossing a two-lane street in Brazil. A bus approached, and while my dad and sister crossed without hesitation, I paused. My father waved for me to come, and the bus driver mirrored his gesture. I hesitated, caught in a moment of indecision. When I finally took a step, the bus driver misread my intention and advanced, only to stop again when he realized I was moving. It felt like we were in a strange dance. Eventually, my father walked over, grabbed me by the arm, and guided me across the street. Once safe, he closed his fist and hit my head with his knuckle. It was really painful. I was 5 or 6 years old. I never forgot that moment. In therapy, I learned to reshape my feelings toward my dad and comforted that scared little girl inside me.

Three years later, I returned to an EMDR specialist, feeling lost in my friendships. I transported myself back to when I was 16, newly moved to California and feeling utterly rejected. I forced myself to hang out with people I didn’t like, the only option I saw at the time. In one session, instead of entering an In-N-Out with that crowd, I chose to rescue that version of me, reminding her that she deserved better.

Most recently, I connected with my 25-year-old self, who again felt trapped by unfulfilling relationships, believing they were the only path to a better future. I held her hand and reassured her that she was doing the best she could, and that life would improve. And it did.

It’s exhausting to rescue the many versions of ourselves – not just as a child, but throughout adulthood as well. But the beauty lies in understanding that your love for yourself is everlasting. You have the power to heal, time and time again.

You can attend to your past selves, whether it was yesterday, two years ago, or fifty years ago. You are capable of being there for yourself, and that’s an incredible work and realization.

Yes, it’s exhausting. But it’s also rewarding.

If you haven’t embarked on this journey, I wholeheartedly encourage you to do so. Not because your past selves are waiting for you, but because your future self needs it.

I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to therapists all over the world who genuinely work to provide the tools for people to heal themselves. Your dedication and compassion make a profound difference in the lives of so many. Thank you for guiding us on our journeys and helping us reclaim our voices and our lives.