Who’s Really in Control of Your Life?

Posted on September 02, 2025 by German Diaz, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

It was a sunny, cheerful morning for Sarah, who was driving to work in great spirits. Suddenly, another car sped past, cut her off, and swerved right in front of her before disappearing into traffic. Sarah slammed on the brakes to avoid a collision.

At first, she felt relief for having avoided an accident. But that relief quickly turned into anger—intense, consuming anger. By the time she reached the office, the joyful morning had vanished. She was filled with rage, frustration, and resentment.

She told the story to her colleague Emily, reliving every detail, every ounce of anger and fear. Later, she shared it again with John, repeating the entire episode as if it had just happened. Each retelling reignited the same emotions: fury, helplessness, frustration.

And here’s the ironic part—the reckless driver who cut her off probably went on with his day, completely unaware that he had “ruined” someone else’s. He likely never even thought of Sarah again.

So the real question is: Who’s really in control of your life?

When the Past Holds You Hostage

The truth is, Sarah was trapped in that moment. While time moved forward, she remained stuck in the anger of the past. Thoughts kept circling in her mind:

“It’s not fair this happened to me.”
“That person should be punished.”
“People like that shouldn’t even have a license.”

But notice what was happening—her day, her energy, her results were no longer hers. By holding on, she had handed control of her life to a stranger. Without even knowing it, she let someone else press “pause” on her life.

And this is dangerous. Because if it happens once, it can happen twice, then three times. Eventually, you stop being the author of your life and become just an effect of what others do.

So I’ll ask you again: Who’s really in control of your life?

The Cost of Holding On

Let’s be clear. Yes, the driver did something wrong. Yes, Sarah felt fear and frustration. And yes, it may seem unfair to simply “let it go.”

But here’s what’s even more unfair—to yourself: carrying the weight of anger, reliving the story again and again, poisoning your own mind while the other person continues life untouched.

Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

- What results is your current focus creating—peace or frustration?
- What are you losing by clinging to what’s already gone?
- And what could you gain if you chose to release it right now?

Taking Back Control

The event already happened. Nothing you do will change the facts. But you can choose what happens next. You can either stay trapped in anger, or you can let go, reclaim your power, and take back control of your life.

It won’t always be easy—because our ego loves to “be right.” But with practice, letting go becomes more natural. You’ll begin to free yourself from the grip of negative emotions. You’ll start creating space for joy, growth, and possibility.

Remember this: every time you let someone else dictate your emotions, you give away control. And every time you release, you reclaim it.

So once again, the challenge is clear: Who’s really in control of your life?

Final Thoughts

Don’t let the world write your story. Don’t let strangers, circumstances, or past mistakes steal your present and dictate your future.

Choose to let go. Choose to forgive. Choose to take back the pen and write the life you truly want.

Because the power has always been yours.

— Germán Díaz – GKD Entrenador

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