Not Taking Feedback Well: How to Shift the Way It Lands
Posted on September 22, 2025 by Ashley Ellis, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Not taking feedback well? Learn practical steps to shift your mindset, embrace your value, and use feedback as a tool for personal growth.
Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed with emotions after someone gives you feedback or even unsolicited advice? Maybe irritation bubbles up, maybe stress or anger takes over, or maybe you just feel small inside. I’ve been there too—and I want to share something that can completely change the way feedback lands.
First, pause and ask yourself a few powerful questions:
Am I worthy of greatness?
Do I believe I will achieve greatness?
Do I believe I live a purposeful life?
Does my life add value to others and to the world?
If your answer was “no” to any of these—or if even a trace of uncertainty rose up in your heart—keep reading.
Here’s the truth: feedback is just data. That’s it. Some data is useful and worth applying, and some is irrelevant to your bigger picture. The problem with not taking feedback well often comes from believing that every comment defines your worth. But when you know your life has meaning, you stop confusing your value with someone else’s opinion.
When you live with certainty that your life carries value, feedback shifts from being an emotional trigger to a growth tool. Opinions begin to weigh less because you know your worth cannot be measured by them. And instead of shrinking, you start leaning into what builds you up—because you believe the best is not only possible, but available for you.
So next time feedback comes your way, remember: it’s simply information. You get to decide what data serves you and what doesn’t. And when you hold firm in the truth of your value, you’ll no longer fear feedback—you’ll use it to rise.
