What Men Want, What Women Want: Building Harmonious Relationships
Posted on September 23, 2025 by Roy Shapira, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Lasting relationships come from aligning with reality—when partners accept core needs of each other, harmony and balance follow naturally.
Women are always looking for a “good man”, so what is a “Good Man”?
Before diving into needs, let’s define a “good man” in this context. A good man is stable, responsible, and kind. He’s someone who has a solid career or runs a business, and he provides security to his family. He’s a protector, a leader, and someone who brings stability, disipline and respect into the relationship.
What Men Want: The Four Essentials
For many men, their core needs in a relationship can be distilled into four key points:
1. Respect: Men deeply value feeling respected. This means listening to them, trusting their intentions, and not constantly challenging their decisions at home. A good man isn’t seeking control; he’s seeking a partnership where his perspective is valued.
2. Kindness: Men appreciate a woman who is kind, gentle, and nurturing. They aren’t focused on how many degrees or accolades she has, but on her warmth and ability to create a supportive home environment. Simply noticing when he’s tired and offering a moment of comfort goes a long way.
3. Intimacy: Physical intimacy is a crucial part of how men bond. It doesn’t have to be constant, but regular, fulfilling intimacy strengthens the relationship and keeps the connection alive.
4. Nurturing (Food and Care): Simple acts like preparing a meal or creating a comfortable space show love without words. These gestures tell a man he’s cared for and valued.
What Women Want: The Three Pillars
On the other side, when asked women may describe a desire for emotional availability and kindness, but they are always drawn to men who offer three fundamental traits:
1. Protection: A woman feels safe with a man who can provide emotional, physical, and financial security. This allows her to relax and embrace her femininity.
2. Provision: Being a provider means taking care of the fundamental needs—housing, stability, and financial support—so that she doesn’t have to carry those burdens alone.
3. Leadership: Women appreciate a man who can lead in major life decisions—where to live, big financial choices, and long-term plans. This doesn’t mean controlling every detail, but being a dependable guide for the family’s direction.
Embracing Reality for Harmony
When these core needs are acknowledged and met, relationships flourish. Ignoring these realities can lead to frustration—men feeling unneeded, and women feeling unsupported. We see it in societal trends: men becoming less traditionally masculine, women feeling they must adopt masculine traits, and both sides feeling unfulfilled.
But when couples accept these complementary roles, they build a strong, happy partnership. Research shows that couples who create this mutual understanding enjoy longer, healthier, and more fulfilling lives together. By embracing these principles, we create not only personal happiness but a stable and peaceful home.
