The Multi-Passionate Woman's Guide to Decision-Making Without Drama

Posted on September 25, 2025 by Stacy Braiuca, One of Thousands of Executive Coaches on Noomii.

The Multi-Passionate Woman’s Guide to Decision-Making Without Drama

“Should I take this job or stay where I am?” “Is this the right relationship for me?” “Should I start that business or is it too risky?” “What if I choose wrong and regret it forever?”

You know this mental torture, don’t you? The endless analysis, the pro-and-con lists that never seem complete, the sleepless nights weighing options until your brain feels like it’s been put through a blender and will never come back to life again.

If you’re a multi-passionate woman who turns every decision into a three-act drama complete with anxiety, second-guessing, mental exhaustion and a curtain call to rival any Broadway stage, this message is for you. You might discover that what you really need isn’t better decision-making strategies. What you need is to understand why your brilliant mind makes decisions so complicated, and as you continue reading, you might find yourself beginning to recognize the difference between thorough consideration and decision paralysis.

The Multi-Passionate Decision Dilemma
Multi-passionate minds face a unique challenge when it comes to decision-making, and the more you think about it, the clearer this becomes. You don’t just see one path forward—you see seventeen different possibilities, each with its own 47 sets of potential outcomes, opportunities, and risks.

Research in cognitive psychology shows that people with high cognitive flexibility (like multi-passionate minds) generate significantly more options and consider more variables when making decisions¹. This sounds like an advantage, but it can become a curse when every choice feels equally valid and important.

You know what it’s like to have your brain ping-ponging between options like a mental pinball machine, don’t you? Each new consideration sends you ricocheting in a different direction until you’re dizzy from all the possibilities.

The Neuroscience of Decision Overwhelm
What you may not have realized is that decision-making actually depletes mental energy. Neuroscientist Roy Baumeister’s research on “decision fatigue” shows that our brains have limited capacity for making choices, and multi-passionate minds burn through that capacity faster because we consider more variables².

This explains why you can analyze a decision for hours and feel more confused than when you started. Your brain isn’t broken—it’s overloaded with its own brilliance. The really cool news is that with the tools available to us now we can combine our personal quantum brain with quantum tools to multiply ourselves out to infinity - if we get rid of our old programming, learn how to apply the new tools, and then carefully but diligently apply the new programming in our minds.

When you’re constantly second-guessing yourself, your nervous system stays in a state of chronic activation, making it even harder to access your intuitive wisdom and inner knowing.

My Journey from Decision Analysis Paralysis Queen to Confident Action Taker
Hello, I’m Stacy Braiuca, known as the Squirrel Wrangler, and as you read my story, you might recognize your own decision-making struggles unfolding. For 20 years as a clinical therapist helping others with anxiety, I was secretly struggling with my own Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), which was also quickly spinning up my own personal “Imposter Syndrome Hell.”

My decision-making process was like a mental obstacle course designed by someone who clearly hated me. Should I take this client? Should I try that intervention? Should I change my practice model? Each choice triggered an avalanche of “what-if scenarios” that kept me awake at 2 AM, analyzing and re-analyzing until I was paralyzed by possibilities.

You know what it’s like to spend more energy deciding than actually doing, don’t you? To research and analyze until you’ve talked yourself out of opportunities that could have been perfect for you?

I would make pro-and-con lists, seek advice from everyone I trusted, and still feel uncertain. I was that person who would stand in the cereal aisle for ten minutes analyzing the nutritional benefits of different options. If I couldn’t decide on breakfast without drama, how was I supposed to make important life choices?

Then on November 17, 2022, everything changed—and as you imagine that pivotal moment, you might wonder what transformation awaits you. During a two week intensive Master Practitioner Certification training on Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Mental Emotional Release® (MER®) techniques, something clicked at a cellular level.

I learned that confident decision-making isn’t about having perfect information—it’s about trusting your internal guidance system and having tools to quickly process the emotional noise that clouds your judgment.

The Four Pillar Decision Framework
My Four Pillar Framework created in 2001 doesn’t try to eliminate options or force quick choices. Instead, it creates systematic clarity through four essential life areas, and as you explore each dimension, you might discover which one holds the key to your current decision:

Body:
• Somatic wisdom and gut instincts
• Physical energy and capacity considerations
• Health and wellness implications
• Embodied sense of rightness or resistance

Mind:
• Logical analysis and practical considerations
• Learning opportunities and skill development
• Intellectual stimulation and challenge level
• Strategic alignment with long-term goals

Relationships:
• Impact on important connections
• Community and support implications
• Communication and collaboration opportunities
• Boundary and value alignment

Spirit:
• Alignment with deeper purpose and meaning
• Intuitive guidance and inner knowing
• Values integration and authenticity
• Connection to something larger than yourself

This isn’t about making perfect decisions—it’s about making aligned decisions, and that alignment becomes clear when you check in with all four dimensions systematically.

The MER® Advantage: Clearing Decision Blocks
While working through each pillar, you will eventually come to identify one specific area of your life where fear, limiting beliefs, or past experiences are most concentrated around your current decision, and you might be curious about what emerges when you explore this with gentle attention.

Often, what looks like a decision-making problem is actually an emotional block masquerading as analysis paralysis. Past experiences of making “wrong” choices, disappointing others, or facing unexpected consequences can create unconscious resistance to decisive action.

When you choose to work with me in my 1:1 coaching program, we take this systematic approach to the deepest level, and as you experience this depth, you’ll discover what becomes possible. As you experience my systematic rotation of body, mind, relationships and spirit, you’ll naturally find and release old programming using a combination of NLP, MER® (where we focus on the one area of life the process has uncovered for you), Hypnosis, and the other Diamond plated methods in my Squirrel Toolbox.

In our one-on-one sessions, MER® works directly with the unconscious mind to locate and release the original emotional charge from past experiences that created your decision-making anxiety, and you might wonder how quickly this transformation can occur. Instead of managing decision overwhelm with more analysis, we eliminate the emotional static that prevents you from accessing your inner wisdom.

The Decision-Making Squirrels
Through working with hundreds of clients, I’ve identified the most common “decision squirrels” that create mental chaos, and you might recognize some of these patterns in your own experience:

The Perfectionist Squirrel: “I need to gather more information before I can decide.”

The People-Pleaser Squirrel: “What will everyone think if I choose this?”

The Catastrophizer Squirrel: “What if this choice ruins everything?”

The Comparer Squirrel: “But look at all the other options I might be missing!”

The Imposter Squirrel: “Who am I to make this big decision?”

Each of these squirrels has a legitimate concern, but when they’re all chattering at once, they create the mental chaos that makes decision-making feel impossible.

Real Client Transformations: From Analysis Paralysis to Confident Action
When clients experience this systematic approach, the transformations speak for themselves, and you might recognize your own potential in these stories:

Jennifer, 42, Marketing Executive: “I used to research job opportunities for months without applying. Now I can evaluate an opportunity through my Four Pillars and make a confident decision within days. I landed my dream role because I acted quickly instead of overthinking myself out of it.”

Sarah, 38, Creative Entrepreneur: “Decision-making used to be this huge production with spreadsheets and endless consultations. Now I check in with my Four Pillars, clear any emotional blocks, and trust my decision. I launched three new programs this year because I stopped waiting for perfect certainty.”

Maria, 45, Life Coach: “I was that person who would analyze restaurant menus for twenty minutes. Now I make decisions—big and small—with confidence and ease. My clients notice the difference too. When you trust your own choices, others trust your guidance.”

My clients go from feeling tortured by their decision-making process to celebrating their new clarity and confident action-taking with concrete tools that actually rebuild the empowering structures in their lives, not just address the symptoms they were fighting.

What I love most is that moment when a client messages me and says something like “I made a major life decision today and it felt easy and right” or “I finally chose without needing everyone’s approval first.” What they report are not always big dramatic transformations. They often have those quiet everyday victories where they realize decision-making doesn’t have to be torture. And they are often more powerful than the nuclear level drama changes.

From Decision Drama to Confident Clarity
Imagine waking up tomorrow with the ability to make decisions from a place of clarity and confidence rather than fear and analysis paralysis, and as you imagine that morning, you might notice how different it feels. Instead of dreading choices, you trust your internal guidance system to lead you toward aligned action.

Instead of needing perfect information, you make decisions with the wisdom that no choice is ever perfect, but aligned choices can be adjusted as you learn and grow. Instead of being paralyzed by possibilities, you become energized by the adventure of conscious choice-making.

This isn’t fantasy—this is what happens when multi-passionate minds learn to work with their natural complexity rather than against it, and you deserve that clarity, don’t you?

Your Decision-Making Transformation Awaits
You’ve suffered through enough decision drama, and now it’s time to develop the confident clarity that matches your brilliant mind. As you consider this possibility, you might sense something shifting, some recognition that decision-making can be an empowering process rather than mental torture.

I’m not just somebody who studied decision-making theory in textbooks. As both an active clinician and someone who lived with GAD for years while working professionally with others dealing with the same thing, I know with absolute certainty that these systematic approaches actually work because they transformed my own decision-making from drama to clarity.

My Four Pillar Framework created in 2001 creates both the foundation for your decision-making transformation AND the launching pad for your future success. You get concrete tools that actually rebuild the empowering structures in your life, not just address the decision paralysis symptoms you’ve been fighting.

After struggling with my own decision-making drama for so long, witnessing someone else experience that magic moment when they break free from that mental prison and just breathe while making confident choices that align with their authentic self is everything to me, and you might find yourself wondering what your own decision-making breakthrough will feel like.

Ready to transform decision drama into confident clarity? Contact me to discover how the Four Pillar Framework can help you make decisions with ease and alignment, because your brilliant multi-passionate mind deserves a decision-making process that honors its complexity while creating clarity.

Because when you trust your choices, you trust yourself.

References and Resources
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. (2021). Cognitive flexibility and decision-making complexity.
Psychological Science. (2019). Decision fatigue and mental resource depletion.

About Mental Emotional Release® (MER®): Mental Emotional Release® is a proprietary technique developed by Dr. Matthew James, adapted from his father’s pioneering work with Timeline Therapy®. Dr. Matt James leads Empowerment, Inc., the world’s foremost organization specializing in alternative and integrative approaches to psychology, human understanding, and personal growth, fostering values of pono (integrity), ho’omanaloa (empowerment), kina’ole (excellence), aloha (happiness), and lokahi (unity).

About the Author: Stacy Braiuca, known as the Squirrel Wrangler, holds degrees as a BSW, MSW, MPH, and clinical licenses as an LCSW, LSCSW, and LICSW. She is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Mental Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis certified by the Association of Integrative Psychology. Because when you can wrangle your inner squirrels, you stop living in survival mode and you start experiencing the peace and joy that’s been waiting for you all along.