Seen Only When You are Leaving: Understanding the Silent Struggles in church.
Posted on October 14, 2025 by Ovril Bryan, One of Thousands of Christian Coaches on Noomii.
A powerful book that reveals the pain of being unseen in church culture and the healing that begins when you choose authenticity over approval.
Seen Only When You’re Leaving: Understanding the Silent Struggle Behind Church Doors
By Ovril Bryan
There comes a point when silence speaks louder than sermons. Seen Only When You’re Leaving exposes one of the most overlooked emotional battles in modern church culture, the pain of being invisible until you decide to walk away.
Many believers find themselves celebrated when they serve but questioned when they step back. This book unpacks that hidden tension, showing how spiritual communities can unintentionally value performance over people and how God’s healing begins the moment you choose authenticity over approval.
Here’s a short excerpt:
“Some will only recognize your worth when your absence becomes undeniable. But God never needed your leaving to see your value. He noticed you in the unseen moments when you cried between assignments, prayed after rejection, and still showed up broken but willing.”
Through each chapter I share personal experiences and reflections that help readers confront emotional exhaustion, rediscover faith beyond church walls, and find peace in knowing that God’s validation is not tied to a platform or a position.
If you’ve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or spiritually misplaced, this book is for you. It is an invitation to heal, reclaim your worth, and walk boldly in purpose again.
