How to Turn Your Challenges Into Opportunities
Posted on June 16, 2012 by Arlene Miller, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Find out what to do when your life is very challenging.
Sometimes ‘bad’ things happen to us and we are really challenged – we lose a job or get ‘laid off’; we get sick or fracture a bone; a child, friend, spouse or partner goes ‘off the deep end’; someone we love gets very sick or dies; someone we love is using drugs, etc. Sometimes it feels like a lot is ‘happening to us’ all at once. Life can feel very, very hard and challenging; it can feel like a lot of work.
The ‘normal’ thing to do is to look outside of ourselves for answers, but this can leave us seeking, wanting and even feeling very depressed and desperate. I looked outside of myself for many years, and I numbed myself with alcohol, cigarettes and more; I was afraid to feel. Sometimes what we are most afraid can bring us the most peace, serenity and joy; the very change that fear becomes our ‘saving grace’.
I have found that meditation and ‘dropping deep into my core’, my heart of hearts, is a big part of the ‘answer’; from this space and place of expansion I can be and explore myself; I can heal myself and feel whole; I can accept myself as I am, warts and all. I can be more authentic, real and true, and then meet and greet the world as I truly am – which is ever changing, evolving and becoming.
Maybe this sounds hokey or ‘new age-y’, but I am sharing because I see so many people in a lot of pain, praying and looking for answers everywhere but within their own heart. We are taught not to trust ourselves and to look to others with ‘greater’ authority or connection to God. Look around you; it’s not working.
When we become aware and come from our own heart’s knowing, wondrous change can flow through us and new beginnings are possible. We are here to enjoy life and the journey, not fight it and spend our days feeling lost and alone.
I heard great advice recently: Give to another what you would like to experience in your life. If you want peace, help another to experience peace. If you want prosperity, help another who is less prosperous than you. Of course, the giving must be unconditional, with no expectation of getting anything in return – simply for the joy of giving.
What is your experience with meditation and helping another from the heart? Has anyone ever done this for you? How would it be to Pay It Forward?
As always, I look forward to hearing from you!
Arlene is an AV Rated Attorney and Professional Life Coach & Mentor.
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