Posted on July 12, 2010 by Ken Germann, One of Thousands of Entrepreneurship Coaches on Noomii.
The article discusses how we should allow our peer groups to change as we continue to change rather than allow ourselves to be molded by our peers.
April 27th, 2010
Normal is defined as conforming to the standard or the common type. We all have run into situations in our lifetime where we want to be “normal” in order to conform to a set of characteristics that will allow us to become part of a social group or have a set friends. Everything is cool with that group or set of friends as long as you conform. Your ability to conform to those rules for membership in that group or community requires some kind of contract that states you are willing to conform to the rules that are required to “belong”. If you fall out of line or don’t follow the rules of that group or you choose to break that contract, you risk being shunned or kicked out of that group. We all want to belong. We all want to feel needed. We all wanted to feel wanted. Its human nature to not want to spend your life alone. We are by design social creatures.
In the movie the Matrix, Neo is a loner in search of a man named Morpheus (named after the Greek god of dreams and sleep) . Morpheus gives Neo a choice to take the ‘red pill’ or the ‘blue pill’. If Neo chooses the ‘blue pill’ nothing will change. He will continue to live his life in the illusion of what he knows his life to be. He will continue to be ‘normal’. If he choose the red pill, Neo will get to see how deep the rabbit hole goes. Neo has a the chance to become ‘exceptional’. As Neo finds during the Matrix, the true path to being normal is taking the chance to become exceptional. In the process of becoming exceptional, he discovers the truth about himself and the higher purpose the Universe is guiding him to follow. There are risks and sacrifices necessary in order to achieve that path to excellence. We don’t need to be loners by choosing a better life for ourselves and those we love. The law of attraction will bring us to a community of people that share our beliefs and ideals. Holding the line to what we believe and be willing to defend it is a rare trait. Your true friends will always be your friends because they love and care about you. They like you for who you are. They already know you aren’t ‘normal’ already. That’s one of the reasons they like you.
The choice of being normal or being exceptional is a choice that is ours alone to make. There isn’t anyone that is going to force the ‘red’ or ‘blue’ pill down your throat. The choice of excellence is ours alone to make. We have rules we need to conform to able to live our lives. The rules that involve our happiness our are rules to choose and how much we are willing to conform. We all have a chance to become our own ‘Neo’ or ‘Trinity’. The path the red pill opens begins with your willingness to listen to your heart and have the faith in yourself to shift your life from being normal to a path of excellence. In that shift to excellence focus your energy and intentions towards living your life presently, mindfully and from the heart. The miracle of that path will come to you every day in the most amazing and sometimes strange ways. Your true friends and people that love you will always love you for being yourself and you loving yourself enough to know when its ok to say ‘no’ and feeling comfortable with the boundaries you have set for yourself. Loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you uniquely are is the most important gift you can give yourself. Quiet your mind, quiet your voice, and listen to your heart. Love is the greatest and most powerful energy source we have. Let normal evolve as you evolve…