Everything you Want is on the Other side of Fear
Posted on December 06, 2013 by Jackie Ruka, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Often when coaching clients, the question I hear is, who am I meant to be or what is my purpose? Your purpose lies beneath your fear.
” We fear the thing we want the most” – Robert Anthony
You know the term you can run but you cannot hide? Well, this may be the case with fear, if you allow it. Which leads to the question what is fear, really? From a clinical psychology perspective; fear is the loss off love or loss of a love object. Deep down we all have fear in relation to loss and the what if’s , loss is inevitable as we gain something in our life usually something drops off from our life, this is how energy works. Point is, we all have fear, this is the norm. The majority of us have fear of success. Success could actually cause loss, in our minds. Yet, when you start to truly love and believe in yourself there is no overwhelm or self – doubt. The purpose of walking your path is to learn the lessons along the way, as everything you want is on the other side of your fear.
What is paradoxical about fear is it can leave us in a comfortable space so as not to really face our inner stuff , living a life of complacency. But, you see fear is just a smoke screen for avoiding our authentic self as we are not meant to live a life of complacency. We are meant to live a life of truth.
Often when coaching clients, the question I hear is, who am I meant to be or what is my purpose? My take on this question is stop and listen to your body and your heart. Moving from a life of existing to a life of living starts by paying attention to tuning into what your heart and body wants to do the most of. An exercise to find your purpose or meaning I have found is visualization. Here is a life enhancement technique to begin to visualize your future self through a visualization manner that resembles what the Universe is asking you to evaluate as a future you can manifest:
- What does my life FEEL like everyday?
- Where do I spend my time, how do I spend it and who do I envision this with?
- What does my body crave?
- What are the actions I am doing that satisfy what my body and heart desire?
- What brings you closer to your goal?
In a dream I had a few months back, I was feeling a restless and anxious kind of sleep, with a pull of indecision and fear. The message that came from this dream was when my father appeared and simply stated to me, do what makes you happy. Doing what makes you happy is an inside job, it’s about what FEELS good and whole. My advice then is to do what feels good, what inspires you and simply give yourself permission to dream out loud as there is nothing to fear.
What next step will you take to overcome a fear?
To you Your Happiness! – Jackie
