How honest is too honest when a first date ask where the relationship is going?
Posted on December 21, 2013 by Carina McKinley, One of Thousands of Family Coaches on Noomii.
Understanding the reality of first dates and the expectations of the "relationship".
When you’re on your first date, do you speed up the process of asking what they are expecting? Too often, I’ve set across someone and they are wanting to know what I am expecting from the relationship. Really? A relationship? Already? I just sipped on my coffee. Maybe I am crazy but let me get to know you in order for me to know if I want to get to know you. As far as we are concern we are strangers. Like when you sit next to someone on an airplane, you may want to talk to them again or you may not. We may get along but I’m not expecting for them to ask “where’s the relationship going” that’s just awkward! Don’t ask where the relationship is going until there is a relationship to ask about. Enjoy the time getting to know each other. Enjoy finding out if you’re compatible. Don’t put so many labels on the first date, that you can’t get past the first date.
So when you are asked what you’re expecting don’t say I don’t know, because you have some clue. We would not be on the date if we didn’t want to be in a relationship. Unless you have some strange pack with yourself that you date at least once a year and you just meet your quota. Say you’re expecting to finish your date, have a good time and go from there. Relationships are complicated enough with making the first date complicated. Know the person before you start the relationship, otherwise you are seeking a relationship and not seeking someone to share your experiences with. What’s that saying…don’t look for someone to sleep with, look for someone to wake up too. Take the same mentality with your first date, don’t look for just the relationship, look for someone to build a relationship and then call it a relationship. A relationship. Bingo. You have one. A real relationship.
