FEELING GOOD AGAIN
Finding your way out of the darkness will take some time but, it is possible to Feel Good Again about yourself and about your LIFE. Take baby steps...
Set small goals for yourself and repeat them, if necessary, daily. For example, at one stage in the process all I wanted to do was SMILE at least once every day. During that time, I could find little to no joy in my life at all. I knew I couldn’t continue to live my life like that so I decided to make a change. I thought about the joys I used to have in my life — sans my relationship with my husband — and worked from there. I loved the smiles on my children’s faces, the morning dawn, a clear evening with a full moon, sun showers and rainbows that follow, etc. I found myself SMILING at having simply thought of these things. I realized that the least stressful or unhappiest time of my day during this very dark period was when I first awake. So, I chose to start my day with a SMILE. It sounds simple enough (even corny) but I can tell you that when you start your day with a stretch and a SMILE it really helps to set the tone for your day. I found it incredibly helpful, calming, and cathartic to open my eyes, stretch, SMILE, and then meditate (or pray) for AT LEAST 15 minutes at the beginning of each day.
Through this process, you’ve been robbed of your joy and happiness. The reality is you can’t look to anyone else to get that back for you. You alone are the keeper of how joy returns to your life. So, make small goals for yourself and work on achieving them every day. YOU MUST BEGIN REPLACING YOUR SADNESS WITH GENUINE JOY in order to begin feeling good again. Find the wonderment, joy, and sheer happiness in the little things you’ve always taken for granted, e.g., the fresh smell of the air after it rains, the belly aching laughter of little children, a cool breeze on a brisk fall day, etc. These are the things that we take for granted and take little to no notice of because we’re too busy “living our lives”. But, when you’re faced with hurt, pain, disappointment, and pure unadulterated sadness these are the experiences that make your life full and rich once more. Enjoy them! So, in order to begin Feeling Good Again:
- Wake up with a SMILE
- Play YOUR favorite song and JUST DANCE
- Begin pursuing your other talents (we all have them)!
- Travel any where
- Eat GOOD food
- Talk to a GOOD FRIEND and just be HONEST
- Scream into a pillow REALLY LOUDLY
- Exercise or change your exercise routine
- Get pampered
- Help others — VOLUNTEER!
This experience has been painful — no doubt. But, you DESERVE to feel good again. Life is not supposed to be filled with sadness, depression, and sorrow. This horrible thing happened. You were hurt and you’ve been scarred. Now is the time to make the decision to reclaim your joy and bring happiness back into your life. ONLY YOU can achieve that sense of freedom.
I smile although life has dealt me a pretty bad hand. What else is left but to smile that love-filled smile because I know I am loved. Smiling makes me feel warm and complete once more. I am thankful that I can SMILE. (Laine Ward 2012)
Feeling good again REQUIRES your PLANNING and PARTICIPATION! Choose to change the way you feel and you will FEEL GOOD AGAIN!
(See more essays like this one on my website Divorce: Real Talk at www.divorcerealtalk.com) [Note: Laine Ward is my pen name!]