Reinvention After Life Changes
Posted on April 29, 2014 by Margaret Baker-Street, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
To reinvent or to merely exist? Are we meant to constantly be greying out our canvas of life and painting over? Who wants the same picture?
How often do you reinvent yourself? Every 4 or 5 years? Every month? The Buddhist tenets say that nothing is permanent. Science says that every cell in your brain and throughout your body was not what it was a minute ago. You are constantly changing.
The only change people appreciate is a change of diapers. When they don’t have to do it.
Most don’t like change. Not in relationships, not at work, or even on their drive to work. Wouldn’t most people freak out at the thought that the cells in their body are constantly changing? They would be experiencing dysphoria by the minute!
The fact is whether any of us know it, or care to admit it, we are constantly reinventing. We shift personalities at times to fit certain social slots, we dress one way for work and another for home.
Many of us are comfortable with constant reinvention, others are not. The ones who are not usually have people in their emotional support group that value repetition, and sameness. You know them, ‘I worked for 20 years at the same job, married to the same person, and then I died’, folks.
When change happens, the loss of marriage, loss of a job, we can crumble, & be confused as to how to move on. We buy into the myth that things won’t change, we will always feel this way, my life is over because things changed. When in truth it’s the opposite. We’re given the opportunity to start over Darwin was noted to say, “It’s not the strongest or the smartest who will survive but those most able to adapt”, or something like that. He may as well have said ‘reinvent’ instead of ‘adapt’. He obviously never watched Oprah.
We live in a Universe that is constantly recycling, morphing and expanding, we are made of star stuff. We’re made of the same materials that exploded during the big bang and created all life on earth! Considering this, we are almost obligated to change. As long as you have life you have the opportunity for reinvention.
Steps to reinvention after change:
Lose the pity panties, cause we’re going camando….
Build your vision – get a journal and let the imagination go!
Get clear and measurable goals established & write them down
Determine your first, second, etc…steps, and a timeline to accomplish these by
Don’t be ashamed to adjust your timeline to longer (but be reasonable don’t give yourself a year to get a business license for example)
Establish someone to which you will be held accountable (this should be an objective person who won’t be soft on you, but doesn’t criticize & won’t let you give up)
Don’t talk to people if they start the conversation with, “well, you know, my friend tried that and he died, or a plague hit, or a civil war erupted” Don’t let them into your bubble.
Oh, and the most important thing…Hire a coach & START!!!
