The Friends You Should Focus On
Posted on March 30, 2015 by Sheeba Varghese, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.
Relationships are so important in our lives and realizing those that will support and encourage us is crucial to our journey!
One thing that keep us stuck in life is the type of friends we choose to have. It is so easy to see this when it happens with our children but when it comes to ourselves, we turn a blind eye.
You don’t need a lot of friend, but having 2 or 3 GREAT friends can make all the difference in the world. Relationships with these friends allows you to “let your hair down”, give and receive encouragement and inspiration. Spending time with these friends is fun and easy. You part from them inspired, encouraged, and even sometimes challenged.
But there are other types of friends that may not be so good.
Have you ever found yourself trying too hard to be someone’s friend? It almost feels like that puzzle piece that you are desperately trying to make fit, but it doesn’t because it is not created for that particular place. Well, it’s the same sort of thing when trying too hard to keep a friendship going. Friendship is a two-way street, and if you are always the one who is pursuing, it may be time to just let go. You may not be the person who needs to be connected to this individual, and that is ok. Being a friend shouldn’t have to be hard work, and if it is then it is time to reevaluate.
How about the friends who are always negative? I would classify these types of friends as the energy zappers. They are always complaining about something or someone, living in victim mode, critical and ready to put someone down. Your time with them leaves you feeling spiritually depleted and just mentally drained. Remember, your time is precious and what I often say is, “what you allow to exist, will persist”. So what and who will you continue to allow to take up the precious time in your life?
There are some friends that you have for a season in your life, some that are not life-long friends. These types of friends come into your life for a particular reason and time. For example, how many of your friends from High School are you still connected to today? I am sure it is not all of them. Yet, those high school friends were there for a particular time in your life. It is not that those friends were not valuable to your life, it is just that you have both changed, and again, that is ok.
So, not every person out of my 600+ friends on Facebook are my friends. Some are family, others are colleagues and still some are friends that I have connected with during some time in my life. Peppered into that list are a few that I really cherish and intentionally make time to connect with.
Who are YOUR friends? And when you are able to answer that question, take it one step further by considering the following….
When was the last time you got together or connected?
If you don’t live in the same town, put the texting down and make a call…the last time I checked our cell phones still work for making calls!
Drop a note or send a card…
The only way for your important relationships to be stronger in the busyness of life is to make intentions to invest in them. That’s why I say…all you need is about 2-3 great friends.
