The Confidence Game
Posted on July 14, 2015 by Paul Bob, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.
This is how any Man or Women can increase their Confidence greatly—
Confidence is something I help men with by giving them a choice of a having truckload or wheel barrel full of it. Most men take the wheel barrel as it is easier to take home, maneuver around and still have more than enough to conquer the world. And why do so many men think they want so much confidence? Because they say, “then I will really be ready and able!”. Ready and able for what… to be cool, super able, really strong, really in control and, finally know how to be more confident?
Confidence I tell them, “is like perfume”. It sprays on, it stays awhile and then goes away. It’s cheap, it’s a mask made of fumes and something we think we want and need but we were never really taught what it truly is. Confidence is a symptom. It is a by product or transitional emotional state as a result of accomplishing things. When we accomplish something, we feel more ready and confident to do that thing again….this confidence and exactly how to be more confident.
Confidence does not come first I tell men. This is the big secret or myth….most men believe with confidence they can do the big thing….. I Coach them to realize that by doing the thing first, they will feel and be more confident. And what’s important here is thinking we are confident versus feeling and knowing confidence….knowing that we have the ability to walk across a long and narrow foot bridge spanning the Grand Canyon…knowing that we can move forward will always win the day over thinking or wondering how on earth will ever know how to be more confident.
Start thinking with your feet, and watch your confidence build as you move onto your path—
Paul Bob Velick
A Coach In Your Corner
