Healing the Relationship Rift - How to Make Up With Your Ex

Posted on July 24, 2015 by Dr Alicia Holland , One of Thousands of Spirituality Coaches on Noomii.

Moving on from a past relationship hurts, but it does not have to be that way. Most people associate a breakup as failure or even let fear of being alone get the best of them. There are several reasons why individuals need to really think about making up with their Ex to truly heal from the relationship. Below are two reasons:

Every Relationship is Different

The first reason is that it is no secret that relationships are different. It is very important for individuals to realize that people come into their lives for two reasons-as a life lesson or life blessing. This is why individuals owe it to themselves to take some time out and reflect upon their past relationship to see the higher purpose for the relationship. This reflection is not meant to flare up old emotional wounds, but simply to figure out whether the person brought life lessons, life blessings, or a combination of both. During this reflection, individuals need to ask themselves the following question: What did this person teach me in this relationship about life and myself? The responses that come from this question are good enough to make up with your Ex. This is when the need for a healing becomes apparent so that both of you can move on and continue to grow on one’s spiritual journey.

Forgiveness is Not for the Other Person

The second reason is that individuals need to realize the importance of forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of those hard life lessons that one must master to move on to the next level in one’s spiritual walk. When one is seeking forgiveness, he or she should go to the other party that is involved in private. This does not mean to broadcast what is going on and how the conversation went down, but focus on making amends with the other individual. Sometimes being face to face is not an option and that’s okay. One can offer forgiveness over the phone. The most important thing is that both parties are in agreement and are sincere about being forgiven and offering forgiveness. Once this has been established, then individuals need to move forward and continue with their healing process. It is okay to set healthy boundaries if one wants to continue being in a friendship with his or her Ex.

Making up with an Ex can seem like a challenge, but truly, it is about learning how to become emotionally mature and be at peace that the relationship has a new status that may be in the best interest of both individuals. Getting a life lesson or life blessing is not that bad after all!