The REAL reason you are afraid of SUCCESS
Posted on September 12, 2017 by Mike Almeyda, One of Thousands of Executive Coaches on Noomii.
Understand the reason why the visions of success, fame, and accomplishment suddenly turn into anxiety, anguish, and panic.
There it is! The success, the fame, the accomplishment, the life. You can visualize your future. Everything you’ve always dreamed up is vivid in your mind…..and then it happens. All of a sudden a big knot starts to form in your stomach. It makes you feel uncomfortable and now the images start disappearing. Immediately, EVERYTHING you have to do to get to your vision is racing across your mind. It’s moving so fast that it causes a panic because you don’t know that you’ll remember it all. You start sweating and become very uneasy. Then, out of nowhere, this voice inside your head starts whispering to you. Now you start hearing: “It’s too hard. You can’t do that, you aren’t smart enough. Where are you going to find the time? Your wife will never support you? That idea is STUPID! You’ll never make enough money to get started. Why are you going to stress when you have a comfortable life now?” Does this sound familiar?
Everyday, this battle takes place. The thought of something uncommon versus the thought of the common. While this appears to be an interesting dialogue between many people, the reality is that this all takes place from within. This entire arm wrestling experience is subconsciously created in our mind. What we don’t recognize is that 98% of the time, we are responsible for our own limiting beliefs. We can sit and design how we want our life to be, and in the same breath, sabotage it just as quickly. Life and death is in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. What are you doing to ensure that your vision of the future comes to pass?
Sharing your passion with that voice in your head will get you no where fast. You’ve got to eliminate that stinkin’ thinkin’ all together! How can you avoid having that one sided conversation in your head? Simple. Have it with SOMEONE ELSE! If you have someone who you love and trust, start there. You want your biggest advocates and advisors to give you honest feedback. Find someone you trust and let them be a sounding board for you. Not only will it help encourage you to tell your future story to someone else, but it can help you get a different perspective. While the voice in your head may be saying it’s terrible, you’ll get the feedback that you need to hear from someone you trust. Remember, without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers, they succeed.