YOU MAY JUST BE AN ADDITIONAL STRESS TO HIM/HER WITH YOUR INSENSITIVE APPROACHES
Posted on November 08, 2018 by Dorcas Musa Igeh, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
This article will help you to discover how your partner would want to be treated by you, when stressed out.
YOU MAY JUST BE AN ADDITIONAL STRESS TO HIM/HER WITH YOUR INSENSITIVE APPROACHES.
“He/she gets upset at every effort I make, in other to calm him/her down. I don’t even know what is wrong or right, for him/her anymore”- Common lines of frustrated partners.
Have you ever taken a moment to ask your partner (boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, fiancée, husband, wife etc.) how they would like you to treat them in their moments of stress, worries, anxieties etc.? You cannot afford to take this for granted because it is very vital to the survival of your relationship, during periods where a party is going through rough roads. Many relationships hardly survive the phase of a party going through crises (financial constraint, job loss, delay, etc.) not because they didn’t try but because all they tried were the wrong methods. This brings me to the saying that “one man’s food is another man’s poison”
Your partner is all stressed to the brink, engulfed with worries and anxieties, there you are, looking all lost because you don’t seem to know what will calm him/her down. More so, you have tried some good tactics that you’ve always thought could calm anyone down, yet none is working; instead, he/she is getting angrier at every step you take to make him/her feel better. You are almost losing it at this point because you are wondering, what kind of human being is this? Why is it so difficult for him/her to see that all I am trying to do is for him/her to ease off the stress, worries, and anxieties?
It is a very big error to assume that one method of comfort will work effectively for everyone. Take note that people derive comfort in different ways, while some people prefer you being around them, others prefer being alone, while others want to be called and texted often, others prefer you don’t call at all, at best, they will rather you text or chat them. If you attempt making yourself present to a person who will rather be alone (when stressed, worried etc.), you will only attract his/her anger and you will think they are being unappreciative of your kindness but no, “your kindness is just as good as a doctor administering contraceptive pills to a woman in dire need of a child”. #Relationship #Love #Emotionsmanagement #stressmanagement #Comfort #emotions #positiveEmotionsNetwork #PEN #TruthHeals #AbujaRelationshipCoach #EmotionsTherapist
