Noone Dare Argue with Momma Bear
We don't always have to react and pull the trigger, there are sometimes other alternatives.I’ve witnessed a man who had his livelihood taken away from him because of others over reactiveness to ‘pull the trigger’ so to speak. No doubt the decision was made because the situation appeared threatening to them, yet their fear has only generated more conflict through their inability to open it up for discussion and talk about the possibilities of other alternatives. If only we had more people in the world who stopped/talked/ and evaluated. People who could take in all considerations before big decisions are made, people who want to find a way to work together irrespective. It would put a lot of professionals out of work however. It’s impossible to get along with everybody and I’m not saying we have too. We fiercely hang on to what we believe in because we fear of losing it. (even if others judge it to be wrong) It’s that simple. What we believe in is hard wired in us biologically. Our body, which is a chemical reaction system of every thought we have ever had, has this amazing state called homeostasis. This means we will automatically do anything to maintain our chemical continuity which is based on a life times hard wired thoughts. Thoughts which science can now easily show you how they affect you on a cellular level. So when we face a stubborn habit, the chances of changing your intrinsic reaction are very slim. How many times do we have to face familiar arguments or repeat same old patterns with predicatable responses. Responses which are a direct reflection of our thoughts! Because a lot of these thoughts have been playing a very long time, you are likely to be no longer consciously aware of them. You may need some professional help to identify what they are so you can move forward, or for some people chemically changing their composition through medication can be their preferred option. Some things presented to us do need defending, like being face to face with Momma Bear! and some of our reactions to situations need changing. There is the scary part… Change! We are not hard wired for change yet we will moan about how our life doesn’t work for us or we can’t lose weight or we can’t have good relationships etc etc. Decisions need to be made. What do you want more? To change unwanted habits and ways of doing things? Or to maintain your current state and life stays the same? . To change means you effectively have to go to war with yourself! How many people have that sort of courage? Not too many I can unequivocally assure you of that. Mostly we wait until something awful and tragic happens to us, or yet another relationship fails, or another business or personal decision brings unwanted trauma and drama. Some will respond to the traumas with new thought patterns and be able to move forward, yet others will still fail to shift in their thinking and beliefs and wonder why the cycle continues.
This weeks questions for contemplation are:
What old argument or habit do you continually play over and over?
Do you think it’s possible that you are a part of the problem?
Would you be prepared to react differently? Or is what you have to lose more important?
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