5 Unbeatable Tips To Make Your Goals Work
Step-by-step Self-Coaching guide to Achieve what you Desire
All of us have goals we wish to achieve. We also have some idea of what to do to get there. Unfortunately, we are not always able to achieve our goals! Do you know why?
Because neither do we know exactly where we want to get, nor we have an idea of why or how precisely to get there.
Read on for 5 exciting tips that make sure your dreams come true.
1. Define a crystal clear vision – You should know exactly what your destination is. Let me explain this with an example. If I ask my travel agent to send me details of vacation packages to a nice destination where the air is clean and I am closer to nature, they can send me brochures for hundreds of destinations across the globe. But when I say, I want to visit (exact destination) and stay at a 5-star hotel next to the ocean; my room should have an infinity pool that looks out to the sea. I would like to go scuba diving and snorkelling etc. Now there’s a higher likelihood that the agent can show me exactly what I am looking for.
Think of your mind as that agent who’s going to help you reach your goal or destination. You need to tell your mind exactly what you want for your mind to start working towards it.
Here is an example.
Don’t say, “I want to have a great career”, say, "I want to be the best (position/job/business) in (location) doing (job) helping (purpose) earning (amount) by (date) because I am (skills) and feel (emotions).
2. Describe the future – Simply defining the vision is not enough. You also ned to tell your mind what the future would look like once the vision comes true. We usually have vague ideas of living a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life when we achieve our goals. That is again vague. Because if I spend the weekend with my partner, who loves me, I may feel similar emotions of happiness and fulfilment and my mind may simply tick those boxes, saying, “mission accomplished”. But I haven’t achieved the happiness and fulfilment I was looking for, from my vision, yet. Yes, my partner is extremely important, and I love them completely and am grateful for them, but I want more from life.
This is why it is important to describe that future in great detail. It also creates intrinsic motivation for your mind when it realises there’s so much you will get by taking a few actions now.
You can describe the future by imagining a typical day in that life when you would have achieved the goal. Describe everything in as much detail as possible.
3. Design and actionable plan – Most of us have some idea of the actions we need to take to move towards our goals. However, they may not be actionable. For example, ‘creating a website’ looks like a task but I may never get around to do it, simply because it is not ‘a’ task but a bundle of tasks. And not chunking the task down into actionable steps may jeopardise my plan.
So, taking the example of building a website, I need to choose a domain name, find if that’s available, book it, buy hosting space, select a website design, decide what information I need to put there, create content for each page/tab/section, have the website actually constructed and then promote it so that people can visit me there etc etc. These can be further chunked down. Now there is a higher likelihood that you would be able to take these steps one at a time and complete this task.
4. Discover the hindrances – Even when the tasks have been broken down, there can be hindrances that stop you from executing them. These hindrances broadly include lack of clarity, lack of resources, insufficient skills and the inability to access the right mental or emotional state. The lack of clarity, resources and skills will take you back to designing more tasks so that you can get the clarity, arrange for the resources and develop the skills. You can work with an expert, like me, to access the right mental state for a specific tasks(s). Only then can you execute each action the way you have designed and keep moving consistently towards your goals.
5. Develop flexibility – The last but also very important is to remain flexible enough to continue what is working for you and modify or alter what is not. Once again, a coach who can help you access the right mental state, can help you develop behavioural flexibility so that you can harness your strengths and empower yourself as you move forward.
If you still find yourself struggling with any of the steps above or have no idea where to begun or you feel stuck in one place, seek a coach’s help. Many coaches would be happy to help you understand their approach and their process in a free discovery call. So, don’t forget to ask for that.
May all your dreams come true!