The Seven Year Itch - Unavoidable or Unexcusable?
Posted on September 12, 2011 by CJ Blancett, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
The "Seven Year Itch" has been an album title, a wrestling move, and a movie starring Marilyn Monroe, but this itch can break up your relationship!
Unbelievable, albeit true, it has been linked to album titles, a professional wrestling maneuver, a parasitic skin infection known as scabies, and the 1955 20th Century Fox Film adaptation by George Axelrod, made famous by Marilyn Monroe in a scene where she stood above a subway grate in her white flowing dress and made all the men of that era go wild. It is usually attached to the notion that it is expected and unavoidable, and although usually associated with men, has been ’scratched" by women alike. I am speaking of the “condition” most commonly referred to by me, as the “harbinger of infidelity”. The dreaded seven year itch.
Let us explore this “condition”. Seven; a noun. A numerical reference after 6. Year; a noun. A cycle in the Gregorian calendar of 365 or 366 days (if it’s a leap year) divided into 12 months beginning with January and ending with December. Itch; a noun or verb. To have a restless desire or hankering for something.
Based on the individual definitions, the entire population becomes infected for more than 2,555 days (directly following the initial Mr. and Mrs. Right period) with the unavoidable need to seek out the affection and interest of someone outside of their relationship, for the sole purpose of committing the act of infidelity, reeking havoc amongst their personal life and causing possible irreparable harm to those that love them. Wow! This sounds serious! This is also referred to in the real world as a premeditated action, one of which has found many individuals on the wrong side of the law.
Now I ask you, why would anyone in their right mind, being predisposed to such an unavoidable condition, ever bother to expend valuable time and resources such as expensive internet dating sites, endure blind dates and referrals from co-workers, friends and family, whiteboards, blogs or even the occassional bathroom scribble, in search of the Holy Grail of togetherness, knowing that the moment they find him or her, their virtual infidelity clock starts ticking? Because it is an excuse! One with longevity, and depending who you ask, merit, but an excuse nonetheless.
Too often we find ourselves dissatisfied with one thing or another about our partner, and begin daydreaming and coveting the lifestyle and possessions of others, wondering “what if”. This act is not only damaging to a relationship, but usually leaves one with a false sense of dissatisfaction, and an unquenchable desire to seek out the greener grass on the other side of the proverbial fence. So do yourself a favor, and the next time you wonder what it would be like if you were there, consider what it would be like if they were gone. Appreciate what you have, and strive to make it better. Love, appreciate and cherish the person you’re with for all the wonderful attempts and sacrifices made during these attempts, and water your own lawn. You will take pride in, and display your harvest that much more!