Scar Tissue
Posted on January 05, 2024 by Sean Self, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
It really makes it clear to me the way that scar tissue has gotten in the way of me doing certain things that are really important to me.
It’s midnight and I’m sitting on my couch as I begin to write this. I’ve been reading “The Art of Asking” by Amanda Palmer and noticing how emotional of a reaction I am having to this book. It really makes it clear to me the way that scar tissue has gotten in the way of me doing certain things that are really important to me.
This is an issue that everyone suffers with in some way or another. As we go throughout our lives we experience things constantly. When you really think about it, it is overwhelming how much we truly experience every second of every day. Most of that stuff just passes right through us without our consciousness really paying any attention to it, but some of it gets stuck in that flow and calcifies, like when we get hurt by something someone says or does. When that happens it causes problems—like cholesterol clogging up an artery. And it’s so damn hard and so damn scary to try to engage in those things that caused us pain before—to surrender and trust that if you let down that barrier that has formed to keep you safe that you aren’t going to get hurt all over again. This is the process of changing narratives.
When you take that risk, and get a different result it plants a little seed of hope that maybe things could be different. Every time you do this it flushes more and more of that “cholesterol” out of your system. It’s not a fun or a pretty process. To be honest, it hurts, but the joy and freedom you experience after, when your heart can truly shine, unencumbered by its protective crust, is absolutely worth it. I know this is just dripping with cheese but it really is true.
There are so many people suffering. I see them every day and because of my own scar tissue it is hard for me to reach out and say “Hey I think I can I help you and I want to. Will you please let me?” This same phenomenon causes people to not ask for help. It’s too scary. Whether it was being let down by a friend when they needed them the most, or having a bad experience with a therapist, they have tried before and been let down.
So, I’ll start—will you please let me help you? If you’re suffering, reach out to a loved one and talk to them about it or send me a message and tell me about it, or book a session where we can talk about it and change those narratives together. I know it’s hard and I know you can do it.
