The Juice is Always Worth the Squeeze

Posted on July 07, 2024 by Karina Schneidman, One of Thousands of ADD ADHD Coaches on Noomii.

When was the last time you thought about your birth story?

I mean really thought about it… This has nothing to do with your familial relationships, your resentments and the human condition. I am talking about the process itself. Your tiny little body was pushed out or removed from (out of) another human being. Did you forget that for you to be in this world today, it took pain, suffering, discomfort and an obscene amount of sacrificing?! When did we become so ignorant and so disassociated with our nature? Pain and discomfort are in our nature.

Nature and nurture require discipline and accountability.

Look up at a tree during the fall, trees literally shed decayed leaves to grow new leaves. Did you know that the nutrients from the decaying leaves help trees grow new leaves? If you incorporate this into human nature, our mistakes and our “decayed” experiences help us grow. This requires loss, it requires hardship, and it requires the understanding of the process. Who lied to us? Who told us that life is easy and emotionally stable? Who told us that we are not allowed to be uncomfortable? Most importantly who said that we are allowed to indulge in self-pity and self-resentment when we know very well what it took to bring us into this world. What a massive disrespect to nature itself to know how we got here and then sit around and indulge in emotional gluttony? Someone once said (I am paraphrasing), “May you sit with discomfort like it’s dawn not a death.”

You are gifted with feelings and emotions to relate and connect to others around you and understand beyond what you see, not to use it against yourself or nature.

Have you ever met a woman who told you that she was laughing and smiling during the agonizing hours or days she was in labor and as she was giving birth? If you have, please, I’d love to hear that story! By the way, in case you’re wondering the epidural is a joke, it may delay the inevitable, or mask the initial pain but the body still requires healing, so pain can’t be avoided.

Life is not hard, it’s hard work.

The minute you start to blame others for your lack of effort, discipline and hard work, you have lost. What you want requires hard work, sacrifice, constant and consistent discipline that takes a strong mental core to endure. There isn’t a single pill out there that will save you from accountability and discipline. There isn’t a single “brain hack” or a particular therapy or years of therapy that will carve you into a superstar. It is your job, and there is not a single trauma, conflict or challenge that will stop you if you do not let it (not letting it is a daily commitment, DAILY…)

You’re either the hard work or you’re just hard and not willing to work.