Posted on December 27, 2011 by Corinne Valentine, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
The need to be right may be hurting you.
Being Right. Most of us would say, it feels o so good to be right. I mean when you are right you are not wrong. When you are right its like a slam dunk, an “I told you so”. Yes that’s me ” Mr. Right” ,want an autograph? It can feel stimulating, powerful, and freeing. It can also at that moment, make you feel better than the other person, stronger, and smarter. Even when it is a matter of knowing the correct turn to make to get to the market. It is just there, a need to be right and a damn good feeling when you are.
THIS WEEKS QUESTION: Do you have a strong need to be right and what is it costing you?
So how did being right become a power trip? It seems like when we stop taking time to validate ourselves we find other ways to feel worthy and validated, like being right. There are simple ways to be right like, knowing the answer to a trivia question, or which way is east or who Melly Johnson kissed in the fourth grade. But…
What about the deeper issues that you may not notice you like to be right about.
Do you always find that you can not trust anyone, because no matter what they disappoint you?
Do you never have any extra money and wonder why?
Are you still overweight even though you tried every diet?
Still stuck in the same career because you can not find yourself?
What if I told you, that history keeps repeating itself, that you may not have more money, job, love, trust because somewhere in your life something happened. Like, you were left, hurt, told you were not worthy. An event happened that left you with a feeling that told you people are dishonest, it’s too scary to fulfill my passion. Whatever it is that you decided then, you continually attract in your life. You may not even be aware of this.
On some subconscious level you get to be right every time someone disappoints you, you get to be right every time a diet fails, you get to be right when you are down to your last dollar again, you get to be right right right!
This kind of being right is costing you value in your life!
WEEKLY TIP: Ask yourself what are you really getting out of being right and is it hurting yourself or others? Take notice, is there a repeating pattern in your life? Think back to where it started and what you decided about your self then. Release the need to be right all the time in order to accept new and better results.
THIS WEEK: BE FULL OF SURRENDER!